Coaching practices for Acceptance in Meditation
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- A feeling shows up and I’m instantly grabbing at it or shoving it away
- Even in meditation I’m secretly grading myself, chasing some better state, treating sitting as a means to an end
- I’ve got the breath thing down
- I’m comfortable following the breath, but the moment I’m told to drop the anchor and just be present with nothing to hold onto, I either spin off into thinking or go blank
- Sometimes the inner image suddenly goes brighter and clearer on its own and I don’t know whether that’s the real thing or my mind making it up
Practices that may help
- Non-grasping awareness: letting arise and pass
Watch thoughts, sensations, and emotions arise and dissolve without grabbing or pushing.
Shikantaza: Just Sitting - Shikantaza — "just sitting" in the Soto Zen tradition
Sit with complete presence and nothing to achieve — no goal, no technique, no observer separate from sitting.
Open Monitoring Meditation, Made Practical - Choiceless awareness — resting without an object
Sit with attention open and receptive, letting whatever arises in experience be the meditation object — without choosing, pursuing, or rejecting any of it.
Open Monitoring Meditation, Made Practical - Releasing the object: sitting without a focal point
Let go of fixing attention on the breath, a mantra, or any other anchor — simply be present.
Shikantaza: Just Sitting - The counterpart sign (patibhaga nimitta)
Recognise when the mental image transforms into a luminous, purified counterpart — this marks the threshold of access concentration.
Kasina Meditation: Concentration Through a Physical Object - Rest as the witness rather than in objects
Allow the inquiry to culminate in resting as the awareness that perceives, rather than in any object perceived.
Self-Inquiry: Ramana Maharshi’s Path of Direct Investigation - Working with sloth-and-torpor (thina-middha)
Dullness and sleepiness in meditation require energising antidotes, not more settling.
The Five Hindrances: Diagnosing and Working with Meditation Obstacles - After RAIN: resting in natural, open awareness
After the four steps, rest in the open awareness that remains — not returning immediately to doing.
RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice - Let the mind settle of its own accord
Rather than forcing stillness, create conditions where the mind naturally quiets.
Shamatha: The Buddhist Practice of Calm Abiding - Willing hands and half-smile (acceptance through the body)
Use open posture and a faint half-smile to signal acceptance to the body, when the mind can’t get there yet.
Radical Acceptance, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Non Forcing Meditation
Rather than forcing stillness, create conditions where the mind naturally quiets.
Let the mind settle of its own accord
- Objectless Meditation
Sit with complete presence and nothing to achieve — no goal, no technique, no observer separate from sitting.
Shikantaza — "just sitting" in the Soto Zen tradition
- Blank Mind Wrong Meditation
Self-inquiry is investigation, not suppression — don’t try to empty the mind.
Avoid the "blank mind" trap
- Choiceless Awareness Meditation
Pause, drop the question "What am I aware of?" and simply notice that awareness is already on.
Glimpse practice: a 10-second recognition of aware space
- Effortless Meditation
Let the technique be passive and easy — TM’s central claim is that effort is counterproductive.
Effortlessness (the “no concentration” principle)
- Letting Go In Meditation
Make releasing — rather than gripping — your default response to whatever arises during the day.
Letting go as a moment-to-moment practice
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