Coaching practices for Acts of Kindness When Burned Out

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• In the moment that I help someone there’s a little glow, but I rush straight on to the next thing and by evening it’s gone
• Doing good for people used to give me a real lift, but I’ve fallen into the same couple of gestures on autopilot and now they feel like going through the motions
• My kindness all goes to the same handful of people I already take care of, and it’s started to feel like obligation
• I give until there’s nothing left of me and call it being a good person, and lately I just feel resentful and empty
• I do little nice things for people here and there all week, but it never seems to lift me the way I’d expect

Practices that may help

1. Reflect briefly on kind acts after doing them
   Spend two to three minutes at day’s end recalling your kindness acts — the consolidation is part of why the practice works.
   Acts of Kindness, Made Practical
2. Vary the acts to prevent hedonic adaptation
   Change the type and target of your kindness acts regularly — repetition dulls the emotional payoff.
   Acts of Kindness, Made Practical
3. Extend kindness toward strangers, not just your inner circle
   Acts of kindness toward strangers often produce stronger well-being benefits than acts toward people you already help routinely.
   Acts of Kindness, Made Practical
4. Be otherish, not selfless
   Help others in ways that also serve your own goals and interests.
   Give and Take: The Giver Advantage
5. Cluster your acts of kindness into one day
   Do five acts of kindness in a single day rather than spreading them thinly across a week.
   Acts of Kindness, Made Practical
6. Deliberate acts of kindness
   Perform several intentional kind acts, ideally clustered, to lift your own well-being.
   Positive Psychology, Made Practical
7. Notice the ripple — secondary effects beyond the immediate act
   Watch for how a single act of kindness can propagate through a social network, which amplifies the meaning of the original act.
   Acts of Kindness, Made Practical
8. Include acts of kindness toward yourself
   The kindness architecture that builds well-being includes self-directed kindness — not just other-directed.
   Acts of Kindness, Made Practical
9. Acts of kindness
   Do one deliberate kind thing for another person — the giver benefits as much as or more than the receiver.
   Building Positive Emotions, Made Practical
10. Check your motivation before the act
    Notice whether you’re acting from genuine care or from obligation — the emotion behind the act shapes the benefit you receive.
    Acts of Kindness, Made Practical

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