Coaching practices for Adaptive Leadership as a Caregiver

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• Everyone brings their problems to me to solve, I jump in and fix each one, and now I’m the bottleneck for everything while my people never grow
• When I push my team on the hard stuff they either shut down and start blaming each other or just nod and carry on as before
• My people route every little decision up to me, even ones squarely in their own authority
• Everything still flows through me
• Carrying everyone else’s anxiety and conflict has hollowed me out

Practices that may help

1. Give the work back without abandoning people
   Resist taking ownership of problems that belong to the people facing the adaptive challenge.
   Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
2. Regulate the level of distress in the system
   Keep productive pressure high enough to motivate change but low enough to prevent shutdown.
   Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
3. Break the advice-dependency loop
   When people come to you for every decision, it signals advice-giving is making them less capable, not more.
   The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm
4. Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
   Adaptive leadership, developed by Ron Heifetz and Marty Linsky at Harvard, distinguishes between technical problems (solvable with existing expertise) and adaptive challenges (requiring people to change their values, beliefs, or habits). The core skill is resisting the pull to apply technical fixes to adaptive problems — and instead helping people do the hard work of change themselves.
5. Distribute leadership rather than centralizing it
   Develop leadership capacity throughout the team, not just in the designated leader.
   Transformational Leadership, Made Practical
6. Build sanctuaries for renewal outside the system
   Maintain relationships and practices outside the organizational system that restore perspective and capacity.
   Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
7. Know where care ends and overreach begins
   Caring personally means being available, not being a therapist — know the limit of your role.
   Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor
8. Treat each person as an individual with distinct needs and aspirations
   Know what each team member needs to grow and provide support tailored to them.
   Transformational Leadership, Made Practical
9. Leading from behind — the servant leader stance
   Influence others more through example, listening, and restraint than through assertion and command.
   The Tao Te Ching, Made Practical
10. Lead with empathy and acceptance
    Accept the person fully even while refusing to accept poor performance.
    Servant Leadership, Made Practical

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