Coaching practices for Ahimsa Feedback

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • I have to tell someone something hard and I’m stuck between two bad options
  • I say I care about not causing harm, but when I look honestly at what I eat and buy and how I treat the people serving me, there’s this gap between what I claim to value and how I actually live every day that’s started to nag at me.
  • Before I’ve even said a word, my mind is already running this harsh, contemptuous commentary about the person in front of me
  • In the heat of an argument the sharpest possible words just fly out of my mouth before I can stop them, and an hour later I’m sick about what I said
  • The voice I turn on myself after I mess up is brutal in a way I’d never speak to anyone else

Practices that may help

  1. Delivering honest feedback without cruelty
    Be completely truthful about a problem and completely non-cruel in how you deliver it.
    Ahimsa: Non-Violence as a Daily Practice
  2. Extending non-harming to daily choices
    Apply the ahimsa lens to one domain of daily life — diet, speech, consumption — and make one concrete adjustment.
    Ahimsa: Non-Violence as a Daily Practice
  3. Ahimsa: Non-Violence as a Daily Practice
    Ahimsa — the principle of non-harming held across Jain, Hindu, and Patanjalian traditions — extends far beyond avoiding physical violence. As a daily practice it means bringing deliberate non-aggression to thought, speech, and action toward oneself and others. The practices are grounded in real psychological mechanisms: non-judgement reduces reactivity, compassion training builds prosocial capacity, and self-compassion buffers the shame that drives self-attack.
  4. Catching harm before it reaches speech
    Notice aggressive or condemning inner commentary and name it before it shapes what you say.
    Ahimsa: Non-Violence as a Daily Practice
  5. The speech audit: THINK before you speak
    Before speaking in a charged moment, check whether the words are True, Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary, Kind.
    Ahimsa: Non-Violence as a Daily Practice
  6. Ahimsa toward the self: replacing self-attack with self-compassion
    Treat yourself after a failure the way you would treat a good friend in the same situation.
    Ahimsa: Non-Violence as a Daily Practice
  7. Practise sthitaprajna — the steady-minded response to difficulty
    The Gita’s wise person is not unaffected — they are not governed. Check: am I responding or reacting?
    The Bhagavad Gita on Action: Nishkama Karma in Practice
  8. Receive feedback with minimal defensiveness
    Treat feedback as data about others’ experience — not as a verdict on your character.
    The Johari Window
  9. Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
    Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
    The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
  10. Widening the reactive gap in daily life
    When a strong emotion arises, pause deliberately before responding — this pause is upekkha in action.
    Upekkha: Cultivating Equanimity in Meditation and Life

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