Coaching practices for Attribute Substitution When Your Brain Answers a Different Question with My Partner
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- I came to a snap conclusion about this and it felt totally obvious, but now I’m not sure I actually answered the hard question in front of me versus some easier version of it my brain quietly swapped in.
- I keep trying to answer one giant fuzzy question
- This is supposed to be a genuinely hard, knotty problem, and yet the answer came to me almost instantly and felt clean
- I can feel myself rating this person as more capable mostly because they’re confident and well-spoken, and even as I notice I’m using one easy trait as a stand-in for the thing I actually care about, the pull to just go with it doesn’t let up.
- I keep responding to who my partner was a couple of years ago instead of who they are now
Practices that may help
- Attribute Substitution: When Your Brain Answers a Different Question
Attribute substitution is Daniel Kahneman’s explanation for how heuristics work: when a question is hard to answer directly, System 1 automatically substitutes a related but easier question and answers that instead. The substitution is usually invisible, so the answer feels like a response to the original hard question when it isn’t. Recognizing the substitution is the only way to correct it. - Name the question your brain is actually answering
When you reach a quick judgment, ask: "What question did I actually just answer?"
Attribute Substitution: When Your Brain Answers a Different Question - Decompose the target attribute into components before judging
Break a hard question into its component parts and answer each one directly, rather than letting a heuristic answer the whole.
Attribute Substitution: When Your Brain Answers a Different Question - Treat judgment difficulty as a signal to slow down
When a question feels easy to answer, that ease may mean your brain swapped it for a simpler one.
Attribute Substitution: When Your Brain Answers a Different Question - Label the easier attribute you’re being tempted to use
Name the shortcut attribute explicitly ("I’m using attractiveness as a proxy for competence") to reduce its pull.
Attribute Substitution: When Your Brain Answers a Different Question - Map your partner's current inner world
Know your partner's present worries, stresses, and joys -- not just who they were when you met.
Love Maps: Knowing Your Partner's Inner World - Ask "And what else?"
The first answer is rarely the most important one — "And what else?" pulls out the one that actually matters.
The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like - Interrogate whether similarity is doing the work
When assessing probability or quality, ask whether you’re really judging similarity to a prototype.
Attribute Substitution: When Your Brain Answers a Different Question - Ask "why this and not that?"
Explain why a fact is true rather than a plausible alternative.
Elaborative Interrogation: Ask "Why Is This True?" - Substitute
Ask: what component, material, person, process, or rule could be swapped for something different?
SCAMPER: A Systematic Creativity Technique
Related concerns
- Attribute Substitution Practice
Attribute substitution is Daniel Kahneman’s explanation for how heuristics work: when a question is hard to answer directly, System 1 automatically substitutes a related but easier question and answers that instead. The substitution is usually invisible, so the answer feels like a response to the original hard question when it isn’t. Recognizing the substitution is the only way to correct it.
- Attribute Substitution When Your Brain Answers A Different Question At Work
Attribute substitution is Daniel Kahneman’s explanation for how heuristics work: when a question is hard to answer directly, System 1 automatically substitutes a related but easier question and answers that instead. The substitution is usually invisible, so the answer feels like a response to the original hard question when it isn’t. Recognizing the substitution is the only way to correct it.
- Attribute Substitution When Your Brain Answers A Different Question During A Big Change
Attribute substitution is Daniel Kahneman’s explanation for how heuristics work: when a question is hard to answer directly, System 1 automatically substitutes a related but easier question and answers that instead. The substitution is usually invisible, so the answer feels like a response to the original hard question when it isn’t. Recognizing the substitution is the only way to correct it.
- Attribute Substitution When Your Brain Answers A Different Question After A Setback
Attribute substitution is Daniel Kahneman’s explanation for how heuristics work: when a question is hard to answer directly, System 1 automatically substitutes a related but easier question and answers that instead. The substitution is usually invisible, so the answer feels like a response to the original hard question when it isn’t. Recognizing the substitution is the only way to correct it.
- Attribute Substitution When Your Brain Answers A Different Question During Conflict
Attribute substitution is Daniel Kahneman’s explanation for how heuristics work: when a question is hard to answer directly, System 1 automatically substitutes a related but easier question and answers that instead. The substitution is usually invisible, so the answer feels like a response to the original hard question when it isn’t. Recognizing the substitution is the only way to correct it.
- Heuristic Substitution Bias
Attribute substitution is Daniel Kahneman’s explanation for how heuristics work: when a question is hard to answer directly, System 1 automatically substitutes a related but easier question and answers that instead. The substitution is usually invisible, so the answer feels like a response to the original hard question when it isn’t. Recognizing the substitution is the only way to correct it.
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