Coaching practices for Attributional Retraining During a Big Change

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• When something actually goes well I instantly wave it off as luck or good timing or "anyone could’ve done that," so the win never sticks to me
• The "I’m so stupid, I knew I’d blow this" fires off in the same instant the thing goes wrong, before I’ve even thought about it
• When something goes wrong I just get hit with a wave of "I always fail at everything because I’m not capable," and it’s so total and crushing that I can’t even see which part of that is the actual problem versus the part I could question.
• The instant I mess something up my brain jumps straight to "I’m just not good at this," like it’s a fixed fact about me
• One thing goes badly — a single rough conversation — and within an hour it’s bled into everything, like I’m suddenly bad at relationships, bad at my job, bad at all of it, when really it was just that one moment that didn’t go well.

Practices that may help

1. Attributional Retraining, Made Practical
   Attributional retraining is a structured intervention that teaches people to explain failures and setbacks in more controllable, unstable, and specific ways — shifting from "I’m bad at this" to "I need a different strategy." Research, particularly from Carol Dweck and Bernard Weiner, shows this shift reliably improves persistence and academic achievement, with effects that are clinically meaningful in some populations.
2. Apply attributional retraining to success as well as failure
   Attribute genuine successes to stable, internal, and global factors — not to luck or circumstance alone.
   Attributional Retraining, Made Practical
3. Catch and redirect attributions in real time
   Notice the attributional sentence in your head as it forms — and replace it before it becomes the stored explanation.
   Attributional Retraining, Made Practical
4. Learn the three attribution dimensions
   Diagnose every failure explanation as internal/external, stable/unstable, and global/specific — then ask which dimension you can shift.
   Attributional Retraining, Made Practical
5. Attribute failure to strategy, not ability
   Replace "I can’t do this" with "that approach didn’t work here" — ability is fixed in the sentence, strategy is not.
   Attributional Retraining, Made Practical
6. Make attributions specific, not global
   Keep the explanation for failure in the domain where it happened — resist letting it spill into a verdict on your whole self.
   Attributional Retraining, Made Practical
7. Apply the experiential processes early, behavioral ones later
   Use consciousness-raising and emotional arousal early; counter-conditioning and stimulus control after you commit.
   The Transtheoretical Model of Change, Made Practical
8. Use a life transition to break old environment-behavior links
   Major context changes (a move, a new job) create a rare window where old habits are disrupted and new ones are easier to form.
   Environment Design for Behavior Change
9. Use temporal landmarks to create psychological fresh starts
   New week, new month, new year, or any personally meaningful date can function as a psychological reset that boosts motivation to change.
   The Habit Discontinuity Effect
10. Distinguish system causes from individual causes in the analysis
    Most failures have system causes and individual causes; fixing only the individual leaves the system to produce the same result again.
    After-Action Review: The US Army’s Tool for Continuous Learning

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