Coaching practices for Candle Problem Motivation
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I want to do a fixed-gaze practice in the middle of my day at my desk, but lighting a candle isn’t practical
- Closing my eyes to meditate just hands my mind a blank screen to run wild on
- There’s a thing I keep meaning to do and just don’t, and I’ve been beating myself up for not wanting it enough
- I genuinely want to do the thing
- I genuinely want this and I believe I can do it, yet I still avoid it
Practices that may help
- Bindu trataka — gazing at a dot
Use a black dot on a white card instead of a candle for a portable, daylight-safe practice.
Trataka: The Yoga Practice of Fixed-Gaze Meditation - Bahir trataka — external candle gaze
Sit one metre from a candle and hold an unblinking gaze on the flame tip until tears form.
Trataka: The Yoga Practice of Fixed-Gaze Meditation - Design behavior with the Fogg Behavior Model (B=MAP)
A behavior happens only when Motivation, Ability, and a Prompt arrive at the same moment.
Tiny Habits, Made Practical - Reduce friction for good behaviors to near zero
Make the healthy behavior the path of least resistance by removing every avoidable obstacle between you and starting.
Environment Design for Behavior Change - Reduce the perceived cost of the task, not just increase its value
High cost — effort, anxiety, or opportunity cost — can cancel even genuinely valued tasks; reducing cost is a motivation lever that is often overlooked.
Expectancy-Value Theory: Why You Try (or Don’t) - Run fear-setting alongside goal-setting
Use fear-setting to clear the obstacle, then goal-setting to define the direction.
Fear-Setting, Made Practical - Attach approach goals to implementation intentions
Lock approach goals to specific when-and-where plans so the positive aim has a concrete trigger.
Approach vs Avoidance Goals - Engineer your physical environment to create opportunity
Rearrange space, tools, and access so the desired behavior is the path of least resistance.
The COM-B Model and Behavior Change Wheel - Diagnose which element — motivation, ability, or prompt — is the bottleneck
When a behavior isn’t happening, ask: Is the person motivated enough? Can they do it? Are they being prompted?
The Fogg Behavior Model, Made Practical - Surf motivation waves rather than engineering baseline motivation
Motivation is unreliable and peaks are temporary — use high-motivation moments to redesign prompts and ability, not just to behave better.
The Fogg Behavior Model, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Behavioral Activation Obstacle
Behavioral activation is a structured approach to depression that targets the avoidance and withdrawal that maintain low mood: instead of waiting to feel motivated, you schedule valued activities and let mood follow behavior. Multiple rigorous trials — including some that compared it to full CBT — find it as effective as antidepressants and CBT for mild to moderate depression, and it may be one of the most underused evidence-based tools available. Clinical depression should be treated with professional support; these principles amplify, not replace, that care.
- Action Line Fogg Model
Every behavior has a required minimum of motivation × ability; staying above that action line is the design goal.
Understand the action line — the threshold where behavior fires
- Bj Fogg Behavior Design
BJ Fogg’s model states that behavior happens when three elements converge at the same moment: sufficient motivation, sufficient ability, and a prompt. If a behavior isn’t happening, one of these three is the bottleneck — and diagnosing which one tells you exactly what to change. The model is practitioner-developed with strong theoretical grounding; large-scale RCT evidence is limited but the framework is widely used in product design and behavior change programs.
- Bj Fogg Behavior Model
BJ Fogg’s model states that behavior happens when three elements converge at the same moment: sufficient motivation, sufficient ability, and a prompt. If a behavior isn’t happening, one of these three is the bottleneck — and diagnosing which one tells you exactly what to change. The model is practitioner-developed with strong theoretical grounding; large-scale RCT evidence is limited but the framework is widely used in product design and behavior change programs.
- Bj Fogg Shine
Immediate positive emotion after a behavior is the mechanism by which habits are wired in — celebrate every repetition.
Celebrate immediately after each behavior with a felt sense of success
- Fogg Behavior Model
BJ Fogg’s model states that behavior happens when three elements converge at the same moment: sufficient motivation, sufficient ability, and a prompt. If a behavior isn’t happening, one of these three is the bottleneck — and diagnosing which one tells you exactly what to change. The model is practitioner-developed with strong theoretical grounding; large-scale RCT evidence is limited but the framework is widely used in product design and behavior change programs.
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