Coaching practices for Capitalizing Positive Events

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• I keep my small wins to myself because it feels like bragging, so they quietly evaporate
• Something genuinely good happened today and I noticed I just kept it to myself and moved on
• When something good happens I downplay it so I don’t seem like I’m bragging
• Something genuinely good happens and I just sit on it
• When something good happens to me I instantly chalk it up to luck or someone else, never anything I did

Practices that may help

1. Share wins with someone who will genuinely celebrate with you
   Name a specific small win to a person who will respond with real positivity — amplifying the emotional signal.
   Celebrating Small Wins
2. Share one good thing with another person
   Tell one person about a good thing that happened — sharing amplifies the positive experience and builds connection.
   Three Good Things: The Evidence-Based Gratitude Practice
3. Sharing good news (capitalizing)
   Tell someone about a good thing — and savor it together — to amplify it.
   Savoring: Getting More From the Good
4. Share positive experiences with others to amplify them
   Tell someone about a good experience while it is still fresh — social sharing multiplies the positive emotion.
   Savoring the Moment, Made Practical
5. Train optimistic causal attribution deliberately
   Practice attributing good events to stable, internal causes — not to luck or one-off circumstances.
   Three Good Things: The Evidence-Based Gratitude Practice
6. Name the genuine benefits — without erasing the cost
   List specific real positives that came from a hard experience while still acknowledging what it cost.
   Benefit-Finding: Locating Meaning and Growth in Adversity
7. Savoring positive experiences
   Slow down and linger in a pleasant experience — letting it register fully rather than rushing through or narrating it away.
   Building Positive Emotions, Made Practical
8. Reattribute good events to yourself
   When something goes well, practice crediting your own stable qualities, not just luck.
   Optimism Training: Building Realistic, Flexible Optimism
9. Explain good events optimistically too
   Read your successes as permanent, pervasive, and personal — the optimist’s mirror of the three Ps.
   Explanatory Style: Optimism, Pessimism, and Learned Optimism
10. Make capitalization a habit
    Treat your partner’s good news as a recurring opportunity to build the relationship.
    Active-Constructive Responding, Made Practical

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