Coaching practices for Changing System Goal
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Everyone here is succeeding brilliantly at exactly the thing that produces the problem I’m trying to stop
- All my goals are worded as things to stop
- Every single one of my goals is phrased as "don’t screw up," "stop being lazy," "don’t embarrass myself"
- Someone else handed me this goal and I’ve been quietly resenting it as not mine, doing the bare minimum out of spite
- The second I fall behind, my move is to quietly lower the target and call it "being realistic"
Practices that may help
- Change what the system is optimizing for
If the goal of the system produces the behavior you want to change, change the goal.
Leverage Points - Frame goals as approach-oriented rather than avoidance-oriented
"Become healthy" outperforms "stop being sedentary" — frame goals toward what you want, not away from what you fear.
Goal Systems Theory: How Goals Work Together (and Against Each Other) - Goal Systems Theory: How Goals Work Together (and Against Each Other)
Arie Kruglanski’s goal systems theory proposes that goals and the means to achieve them form an associative network in the mind, with each element linked to others. When a single means can serve multiple goals (multifinality), motivation is amplified; when goals compete for the same means or time (goal conflict), pursuing one can suppress or extinguish motivation for another. The theory is well-developed conceptually with a body of supporting experimental research. - Reframe avoidance goals as approach goals
Translate "stop failing" into "get to X" so your system aims at a target instead of a threat.
Approach vs Avoidance Goals - Internalize goals you did not choose
Move externally set goals along the spectrum from "have to" toward "value".
Self-Determination Theory, Made Usable - Revise strategy when off track, not the goal
When progress stalls, the first move is to change the approach — not to lower the target.
Goal Setting Theory, Made Practical - Review goal-self fit at regular intervals
As you grow, some formerly self-concordant goals become misaligned — review them deliberately.
Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical - Act on exactly one change before cycling again
Carry one specific modification into the next cycle — not a wholesale overhaul.
Plan–Do–Study–Act: Deming’s Loop for Personal Improvement - Use self-regulatory goals and progress monitoring
Set specific goals, monitor your progress toward them, and adjust based on the gap.
Social Cognitive Theory - Resist the pull to optimize parameters when structure is the problem
Notice when you are adjusting numbers and ask whether the structure is the actual problem.
Leverage Points
Related concerns
- Anti Goal Definition
Anti-goals, popularised by entrepreneur Andrew Wilkinson, are explicit statements of the outcomes, conditions, and trade-offs you refuse to accept — defined before deciding what to pursue. They complement positive goal-setting by creating a decision filter that eliminates technically "successful" outcomes that would make you miserable. The framework is a practitioner heuristic with no direct experimental study, but it applies well-supported principles from decision science and values-clarification.
- Goal Displacement Systems
Arie Kruglanski’s goal systems theory proposes that goals and the means to achieve them form an associative network in the mind, with each element linked to others. When a single means can serve multiple goals (multifinality), motivation is amplified; when goals compete for the same means or time (goal conflict), pursuing one can suppress or extinguish motivation for another. The theory is well-developed conceptually with a body of supporting experimental research.
- Goal Systems Theory
Arie Kruglanski’s goal systems theory proposes that goals and the means to achieve them form an associative network in the mind, with each element linked to others. When a single means can serve multiple goals (multifinality), motivation is amplified; when goals compete for the same means or time (goal conflict), pursuing one can suppress or extinguish motivation for another. The theory is well-developed conceptually with a body of supporting experimental research.
- Goal Systems Theory How Goals Work Together And Against Each Other During A Big Change
Arie Kruglanski’s goal systems theory proposes that goals and the means to achieve them form an associative network in the mind, with each element linked to others. When a single means can serve multiple goals (multifinality), motivation is amplified; when goals compete for the same means or time (goal conflict), pursuing one can suppress or extinguish motivation for another. The theory is well-developed conceptually with a body of supporting experimental research.
- Invert The Goal
Inversion is the mental model — popularized by Charlie Munger via the mathematician Carl Jacobi’s "invert, always invert" — of approaching a problem from its opposite end: instead of asking how to succeed, ask what would guarantee failure, then systematically avoid it. It is a reasoning heuristic, not a studied intervention, but it reliably surfaces risks and assumptions that forward thinking misses.
- Kruglanski Goal Systems
Arie Kruglanski’s goal systems theory proposes that goals and the means to achieve them form an associative network in the mind, with each element linked to others. When a single means can serve multiple goals (multifinality), motivation is amplified; when goals compete for the same means or time (goal conflict), pursuing one can suppress or extinguish motivation for another. The theory is well-developed conceptually with a body of supporting experimental research.
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