Coaching practices for Choosing the Harder Option
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I take the elevator, the car, the shortcut every single time without thinking, and I’ve noticed the easy path is the only one I can stand anymore
- I pile up so many options trying to be thorough that I drown in them
- Even after I’ve chosen I leave the door cracked open "just in case," and I keep quietly re-shopping and re-comparing
- Studying this is a slog and I can’t tell if the struggle is the good kind that’s actually building something or just a wall I keep slamming into
- I threw myself straight at the hard stuff thinking the struggle would be good for me, but I didn’t have the basics under me, so it was just failure on failure
Practices that may help
- Periodically forgo a comfort or convenience
Regularly choose the harder version of a routine activity — the stairs, the inconvenience, the slower path.
Voluntary Discomfort: The Stoic Practice of Chosen Hardship - Limit the option set deliberately
Cap how many alternatives you’ll consider before you start.
Satisficing vs. Maximizing: When “Good Enough” Wins - Commit and stop re-evaluating
Once you’ve chosen, close the door instead of reopening the comparison.
Satisficing vs. Maximizing: When “Good Enough” Wins - Choice Overload, Made Practical
When the number of options exceeds a cognitive threshold, people become less likely to choose, less satisfied with what they chose, and more prone to regret — a phenomenon Barry Schwartz calls the "paradox of choice." Reducing options strategically and adopting a "good enough" standard are the most evidence-supported remedies. - Desirable Difficulties: When Harder Means Better Learning
Desirable difficulties, a concept from learning researcher Robert Bjork, are challenges introduced into study — like spacing, testing, and mixing topics — that make learning feel harder and slower in the moment but produce stronger long-term retention. The catch in the name is "desirable": the difficulty has to be one you can overcome, or it becomes an unhelpful obstacle. - Tell desirable difficulty from plain obstacle
Keep difficulties you can overcome with effort; remove ones that just block you.
Desirable Difficulties: When Harder Means Better Learning - Tune the difficulty to your current level
A difficulty is only desirable if you have the prior knowledge to overcome it.
Desirable Difficulties: When Harder Means Better Learning - Reduce opportunity-cost thinking
Stop calculating what every rejected option "costs" you — it amplifies regret for no gain.
Choice Overload, Made Practical - Choose maximize or satisfice per decision
Reserve maximizing for the few high-stakes, lasting choices; satisfice the rest.
Satisficing vs. Maximizing: When “Good Enough” Wins - Training discomfort tolerance
Choosing hard sets builds the skill of staying with discomfort by choice.
Strength Training for Confidence
Related concerns
- Choice Within Constraints
When the number of options exceeds a cognitive threshold, people become less likely to choose, less satisfied with what they chose, and more prone to regret — a phenomenon Barry Schwartz calls the "paradox of choice." Reducing options strategically and adopting a "good enough" standard are the most evidence-supported remedies.
- Choice Within Limits
Set a "good enough" threshold before you search, then stop when you hit it.
Adopt satisficing instead of maximizing
- How To Stop Overthinking Choices
Mentally close off the "undo" option to stop rumination and increase satisfaction.
Treat your decision as more final than it is
- Moving Toward Difficulty
A difficulty is only desirable if you have the prior knowledge to overcome it.
Tune the difficulty to your current level
- Paradox Of Choice Solution
When the number of options exceeds a cognitive threshold, people become less likely to choose, less satisfied with what they chose, and more prone to regret — a phenomenon Barry Schwartz calls the "paradox of choice." Reducing options strategically and adopting a "good enough" standard are the most evidence-supported remedies.
- Simplify Choices Better Decisions
When facing a decision with many options, default to the simpler one unless there is a specific reason to choose complexity.
Making the simpler choice deliberately
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