Coaching practices for Dealing with a Coworker Who Asks Me to Stay Late

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• Every time someone leans over with a "got a sec?" I just drop everything and deal with it, because saying "not right now" feels rude
• Guarding my focus time makes me feel guilty and a little unreachable, like I’m leaving people stranded
• I leave work but work never leaves me
• I close the laptop but work never actually stops
• I finish what someone asked for and just move on without telling them, and then they ping me "did you get to that yet?"

Practices that may help

1. Handling external interruptions
   Use the inform–negotiate–schedule–call-back protocol to protect the sprint.
   The Pomodoro Technique, Made Practical
2. Offer office hours to concentrate collaboration
   Designate one or two open windows per day when collaborators can reach you freely, then protect everything else.
   Maker vs Manager Schedule
3. Use a 15-minute end-of-day planning buffer to close the day’s loops
   Before leaving work, take 15 minutes to list tomorrow’s priorities and explicitly close today’s open loops.
   The Zeigarnik Effect: How Unfinished Tasks Occupy Your Mind
4. The shutdown ritual
   End the workday with a fixed routine that closes open loops.
   Time Blocking, Made Practical
5. Signal clearly when you’re done with a request before moving on
   Close collaborative loops explicitly — send a brief "done" signal so the other person’s attention residue also closes.
   Attention Residue: Why Switching Tasks Costs More Than You Think
6. Communicate your schedule mode to collaborators
   Tell your team when you are in maker mode and what that means for response times.
   Maker vs Manager Schedule
7. Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
   Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
8. Use a shutdown ritual
   End the workday with a deliberate routine that closes open loops and declares work done.
   Deep Work, Made Practical
9. Time the second ask: not too soon, not too distant
   A short delay between the first and second requests strengthens the self-attribution update before you ask again.
   The Foot-in-the-Door Technique, Made Practical
10. Send proactive, brief status updates
    Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss

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