Coaching practices for Difference Between Values and Goals
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I keep hitting the milestones I chase
- There’s a goal I keep flogging myself to pursue and it just won’t stick
- The moment a goal gets hard I lose all sense of why I’m even doing it
- Every time I set goals they end up being what I think I’m supposed to want
- No matter how much I improve, my goals are always pegged to beating other people
Practices that may help
- Separate values from goals
Distinguish directions you live (values) from destinations you reach (goals).
Values Clarification, Made Practical - Using your ranked values as a coaching north star
Return to your ranked values list every time a goal, project, or decision feels off-track.
Values Card Sort - Anchor each goal to a named, personal value
Make the goal an expression of a specific value so it stays motivating when difficulty peaks.
Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical - Excavate core values before writing goals
Identify what you most fundamentally care about before deciding what you want — or goals will be other people’s.
The Life Crafting Intervention: Scripting Your Future Self - Orient toward mastery rather than performance comparison
Set goals against your own past standard rather than against others.
Approach vs Avoidance Goals - Strengthen goal commitment through the means you choose
The path you commit to shapes how strongly you pursue the goal — different means produce different levels of dedication.
Goal Systems Theory: How Goals Work Together (and Against Each Other) - Review and update anti-goals annually as values evolve
Anti-goals based on your 28-year-old priorities may be wrong for your 38-year-old ones — review them explicitly.
Anti-Goals: Defining Success by What You Refuse to Accept - Relevant — anchor it to what you actually want
Confirm the goal serves a value or larger aim you genuinely hold.
SMART Goals That Actually Move - Link every action to a named value
Before you begin, name the value the action expresses — not just the goal it serves.
Committed Action, Made Practical - Review goal-self fit at regular intervals
As you grow, some formerly self-concordant goals become misaligned — review them deliberately.
Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Identity Goals Vs Real Goals
Distinguish directions you live (values) from destinations you reach (goals).
Separate values from goals
- Why Goals Fail Without Values
Return to your ranked values list every time a goal, project, or decision feels off-track.
Using your ranked values as a coaching north star
- Goal And Personal Values
Make the goal an expression of a specific value so it stays motivating when difficulty peaks.
Anchor each goal to a named, personal value
- Values Vs Goals
Return to your ranked values list every time a goal, project, or decision feels off-track.
- When Smart Goals Make It Relevant
Confirm the goal serves a value or larger aim you genuinely hold.
Relevant — anchor it to what you actually want
- Act Values Vs Goals
Values-based action in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) means choosing behaviors that are consistent with what matters most to you — your values — rather than behaviors driven by avoidance of pain or approval-seeking. ACT distinguishes values (directions, ongoing) from goals (destinations, finishable); the emphasis is on the quality of action in the present rather than outcome attainment. ACT has robust meta-analytic support; values-based action is identified as a core mechanism.
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