Coaching practices for Distress Tolerance Skills for My Teenager

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  • This isn’t something I can fix
  • Right now I’m so far over the edge that talking or reasoning is useless
  • I’m too wound up to think or talk my way calmer, and there’s nothing to fix right now
  • I’m too wound up to reason my way calm
  • My body is in full alarm right now

Practices that may help

  1. Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
    Distress tolerance skills, primarily from DBT, are short-term tools for surviving a crisis — intense emotional pain, overwhelming urges, or acute situational stress — without making things worse. They don’t solve the problem; they get you through the peak so problem-solving becomes possible again. DBT as a whole has strong randomized-trial support, particularly for borderline personality disorder and emotion dysregulation.
  2. IMPROVE the moment
    Use Imagery, Meaning, Prayer, Relaxation, One thing, Vacation, and Encouragement to get through right now.
    Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
  3. TIPP for crisis distress tolerance
    Use Temperature, Intense exercise, Paced breathing, and Paired muscle relaxation to drop overwhelming arousal fast.
    Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills, Made Practical
  4. Self-soothe with the five senses
    Deliberately comfort yourself through sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch to ride out distress.
    Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills, Made Practical
  5. Self-soothe through the five senses
    Deliberately comfort yourself through sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch while the crisis peaks.
    Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
  6. TIPP — change your body chemistry fast
    Use Temperature, Intense exercise, Paced breathing, and Progressive muscle relaxation to drop overwhelm from the body up.
    Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
  7. Use TIPP to make other skills accessible again
    TIPP is not the endpoint — it reduces arousal so cognitive and interpersonal skills become usable.
    TIPP: DBT’s Crisis Skill for Rapidly Lowering Emotional Intensity
  8. Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
    Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
    Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
  9. TIPP: Rapid Physiological De-escalation for Intense Distress
    Use Temperature, Intense exercise, Paced breathing, and Paired muscle relaxation to bring crisis-level emotion down quickly.
    The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
  10. Radical acceptance in a crisis
    Fully acknowledge that this is happening right now — stopping the war with reality to free energy for getting through.
    Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical

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