Coaching practices for Distress Tolerance Skills with Friends

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • This isn’t something I can fix
  • I’m too wound up to think or talk my way calmer, and there’s nothing to fix right now
  • I’m too wound up to reason my way calm
  • Right now I’m so far over the edge that talking or reasoning is useless
  • My body is in full alarm right now

Practices that may help

  1. Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
    Distress tolerance skills, primarily from DBT, are short-term tools for surviving a crisis — intense emotional pain, overwhelming urges, or acute situational stress — without making things worse. They don’t solve the problem; they get you through the peak so problem-solving becomes possible again. DBT as a whole has strong randomized-trial support, particularly for borderline personality disorder and emotion dysregulation.
  2. IMPROVE the moment
    Use Imagery, Meaning, Prayer, Relaxation, One thing, Vacation, and Encouragement to get through right now.
    Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
  3. Self-soothe with the five senses
    Deliberately comfort yourself through sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch to ride out distress.
    Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills, Made Practical
  4. Self-soothe through the five senses
    Deliberately comfort yourself through sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch while the crisis peaks.
    Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
  5. TIPP for crisis distress tolerance
    Use Temperature, Intense exercise, Paced breathing, and Paired muscle relaxation to drop overwhelming arousal fast.
    Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills, Made Practical
  6. TIPP — change your body chemistry fast
    Use Temperature, Intense exercise, Paced breathing, and Progressive muscle relaxation to drop overwhelm from the body up.
    Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
  7. ACCEPTS — structured distraction from crisis
    Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
    Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
  8. Reach out when stressed, not after
    Contact a trusted person during stress, not only once it has passed — the oxytocin release is the active coping mechanism.
    Tend-and-Befriend, Made Practical
  9. The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
    The STOP skill — Stop, Take a step back, Observe, Proceed mindfully — is a DBT distress-tolerance technique designed to interrupt impulsive, emotion-driven action in crisis moments. It creates a brief deliberate pause between an emotional trigger and a response, allowing the rational mind to re-engage. DBT as a whole has strong RCT evidence; the STOP skill is a defined component of that validated package.
  10. Invest in social resources as the highest-return resilience investment
    Strong, diverse social relationships are the single most robust resilience resource across virtually all stressor types.
    Conservation of Resources Theory, Made Practical

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