Coaching practices for Elaboration Likelihood Model During Conflict

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  • Before I even open my mouth I can’t tell whether this person is actually weighing what I say or just half-listening and waiting for the headline
  • They’re busy and barely engaged
  • I came in hard because the situation called for it, but partway through the urgent part got settled and the other person clearly just needed to feel heard
  • They’re sharp and they care about this, so every point I make gets picked apart in real time
  • The second things get tense I snap into the same move every time without choosing it

Practices that may help

  1. Elaboration Likelihood Model, Made Practical
    The elaboration likelihood model (ELM) holds that persuasion travels one of two routes: the central route, where people carefully evaluate arguments and change their minds durably, and the peripheral route, where people use mental shortcuts (source attractiveness, social proof) and shift only temporarily. Which route dominates depends on motivation and cognitive capacity in the moment. The model is one of the most replicated frameworks in social psychology.
  2. Diagnose which route your audience is on before you speak
    Check motivation and capacity before choosing how to frame your message.
    Elaboration Likelihood Model, Made Practical
  3. Use peripheral cues when elaboration is low
    Source credibility, social proof, and liking move low-engagement audiences where logic cannot.
    Elaboration Likelihood Model, Made Practical
  4. Recognize when to shift modes mid-conflict
    The mode that’s right at the start of a conversation may not be right ten minutes in.
    The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)
  5. Lead with argument quality on the central route
    When your audience is engaged and able, weak arguments actively backfire — make every point earn its place.
    Elaboration Likelihood Model, Made Practical
  6. Identify your default conflict mode
    Before you can choose a mode, you have to know which one you use automatically.
    The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)
  7. Competing (assertive, uncooperative)
    Pursue your own position firmly when speed, principle, or stakes outweigh the relationship cost.
    The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles
  8. Maintain positive tone even during disagreement
    The ratio matters most when you are fighting -- keep warmth and acknowledgment present inside conflict.
    The Magic Relationship Ratio: Gottman's 5-to-1 Principle
  9. Easy Manner: bring a light touch when appropriate
    Use humor, lightness, and warmth to remind both of you that the relationship is bigger than this conflict.
    GIVE: DBT’s Skill for Preserving Relationships During Difficult Conversations
  10. Make repair attempts early and accept them graciously
    Use small signals to de-escalate conflict before it spirals — and receive them when offered.
    The 5-to-1 Positivity Ratio in Relationships

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