Coaching practices for Emotional Agility with My Team

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  • I can be fine one-on-one but the second a conversation gets tense it slides into a fight before I know it
  • There’s a conversation I know I need to have
  • My mood keeps making my decisions for me
  • By the time I get to the people who matter I’ve got nothing left to give them
  • I feel like I have to look certain and have all the answers in front of my team, and I’m starting to wonder if that very armor is exactly why none of them will admit when they’re unsure either.

Practices that may help

  1. Emotional Agility, Made Practical
    Emotional agility, developed by psychologist Susan David, is the ability to engage with your emotions — including the difficult ones — with curiosity and without being controlled by them. Unlike toxic positivity, it does not suppress or reframe negative feelings away; it asks you to see them clearly and choose your response from values rather than from reflex. The framework draws heavily on ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy), which has a well-established research base.
  2. Social skill
    Manage relationships, navigate conflict, and influence well by applying the other four skills in interaction.
    Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical
  3. Develop emotional courage
    Choose discomfort deliberately when the values-aligned path is harder — courage is a practice, not a trait.
    Emotional Agility, Made Practical
  4. Walk your why — act from values, not from mood
    Choose your response based on what matters to you, not on what the emotion is demanding.
    Emotional Agility, Made Practical
  5. Build emotional energy rituals to buffer against daily depletion
    Emotional energy is the quality of emotional availability you bring to work and relationships — and it is trainable through brief daily rituals.
    Energy Management, Not Time Management
  6. Model vulnerability and uncertainty as a leader to accelerate safety
    Deliberately share your own uncertainties, mistakes, and questions — it gives permission for others to do the same.
    The Four Stages of Psychological Safety
  7. Mirror the emotional register before problem-solving
    Name or match the other person’s emotional state before offering analysis or advice.
    Mirroring and Matching, Made Practical
  8. Show up — turn toward difficult emotions
    Face difficult feelings with curiosity rather than suppressing, avoiding, or being swept into them.
    Emotional Agility, Made Practical
  9. Create safety for experimentation and honest challenge
    Make it safe to raise problems, test new ideas, and disagree — before expecting the team to transform.
    Transformational Leadership, Made Practical
  10. Empathy
    Accurately read and take seriously what other people are feeling.
    Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical

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