Coaching practices for Evidence Based Parenting

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I careen between cracking down like a drill sergeant and then feeling guilty and just letting everything slide, and my kid never knows which version of me they’re getting
• My kid only seems to come at me when they want something or when they’re acting out, and I realize the only time I really pay full attention is when I’m correcting them
• I catch myself falling back on "because I said so" because in the moment I’m too worn out to explain, and then my kid just tests the same rule again the next day like it never really meant anything to them.
• I lose my temper with my kid and then feel sick about it for hours
• There are a few situations that go badly every single time

Practices that may help

1. Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
   Triple P — Positive Parenting Program — is a multilevel evidence-based parenting support system developed by Matthew Sanders at the University of Queensland. It teaches positive relationship skills, proactive management strategies, and calm responses to misbehavior. Multiple meta-analyses and RCTs support its effectiveness for reducing child behavior problems and parent stress, making it one of the most rigorously evaluated parenting programs in the world.
2. Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind)
   Diana Baumrind’s authoritative parenting style combines high warmth with high structure — responsiveness to the child’s needs alongside consistent, explained expectations. It is the most extensively researched parenting style and is consistently associated with better child outcomes across academic achievement, social competence, and emotional adjustment, compared to authoritarian (high control, low warmth) or permissive (low control, high warmth) styles. Most of the evidence is observational; causal direction and cultural generalizability require caveats.
3. Provide warmth and structure simultaneously
   Children need to know they are loved and to know what is expected — these work together, not against each other.
   Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind)
4. Spend quality one-on-one time with your child
   Fifteen minutes of child-led, uninterrupted attention per day builds the relationship that discipline depends on.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
5. Explain the reason behind rules
   Children who understand why a rule exists are more likely to internalize it — and more likely to generalize it to new situations.
   Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind)
6. Manage your own emotional state before responding
   A regulated parent is the single most powerful behavior management tool available.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
7. Plan behavior management strategies in advance
   Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
8. Say yes to bids for connection before enforcing limits
   A child’s capacity to accept limits depends on how connected they feel to the person setting them.
   Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind)
9. Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
   Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
10. Give age-appropriate autonomy within non-negotiable limits
    Let the child choose within the boundaries you set — the choice builds competence; the boundary provides safety.
    Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind)

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