Coaching practices for Existentialism and Radical Choice as a Parent

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • There’s a decision I keep half-defending with a fog of "well, the circumstances, the other people, what else could I have done"
  • I’m facing a real decision and I realize I’m about to choose what my family or my role or "what one does" expects of me, not what I actually value
  • When a genuinely open choice is in front of me
  • I describe my life in "I have to" and "I have no choice," and it lets me off the hook
  • Every little thing turns into a power struggle because my kid wants to control everything, and I’m stuck between bossing them through the whole day or handing them a freedom they’re not ready for

Practices that may help

  1. Existentialism and Radical Choice
    Jean-Paul Sartre’s existentialism holds that human beings have no fixed nature — "existence precedes essence" — and are therefore radically free to define themselves through their choices. The practical implication is that you cannot hide behind role, instinct, or circumstance: you are always already choosing, including when you tell yourself you have no choice. This is philosophical rather than clinical; its overlap with ACT and CBT is real but indirect.
  2. Take radical responsibility for your choices
    Own every choice completely — including its unintended consequences and the unchosen conditions within which you chose.
    Existentialism and Radical Choice
  3. Choose authentically — from your own values, not from expectation
    Make choices that reflect your actual values rather than the role others have assigned you.
    Existentialism and Radical Choice
  4. Sit with the anxiety of freedom
    When the weight of choice produces vertigo, use it as a signal — not a problem to escape.
    Existentialism and Radical Choice
  5. Spot bad faith in yourself
    Notice when you are treating yourself as a thing determined by role, instinct, or expectation — and claim the choice.
    Existentialism and Radical Choice
  6. Give age-appropriate autonomy within non-negotiable limits
    Let the child choose within the boundaries you set — the choice builds competence; the boundary provides safety.
    Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind)
  7. Take seriously that you have no fixed nature
    Stop treating your personality, role, or past as a given — you are always in the process of defining yourself.
    Existentialism and Radical Choice
  8. Accept your role (not its outcomes) as your commitment
    Commit to the role — parent, manager, friend, citizen — as a practice, with its obligations, not as a guarantee of outcomes.
    The Stoic Reserve Clause
  9. Exercise the last human freedom
    Between what happens to you and your response, there is a space — and your freedom lives there.
    Man’s Search for Meaning, Made Practical
  10. Counter present fatalism by identifying one controllable lever
    Present-fatalistic thinking ("nothing I do matters") is directly countered by finding one real point of agency.
    Time Perspective Therapy

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