Coaching practices for Failure Explanation Dimensions

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• When something goes wrong I just get hit with a wave of "I always fail at everything because I’m not capable," and it’s so total and crushing that I can’t even see which part of that is the actual problem versus the part I could question.
• One thing goes badly — a single rough conversation — and within an hour it’s bled into everything, like I’m suddenly bad at relationships, bad at my job, bad at all of it, when really it was just that one moment that didn’t go well.
• I’ve broken the problem into pieces but they keep bleeding into each other and I have a nagging fear I’ve left a whole chunk out entirely
• I keep blaming myself and vowing to just try harder, yet the same failure happens again and again no matter how much willpower I throw at it
• One bad thing happens and instantly it’s "this always happens, it ruins everything, and it’s all my fault"

Practices that may help

1. Learn the three attribution dimensions
   Diagnose every failure explanation as internal/external, stable/unstable, and global/specific — then ask which dimension you can shift.
   Attributional Retraining, Made Practical
2. Make attributions specific, not global
   Keep the explanation for failure in the domain where it happened — resist letting it spill into a verdict on your whole self.
   Attributional Retraining, Made Practical
3. Build branches that are MECE at every level
   Ensure each set of branches is mutually exclusive (no overlap) and collectively exhaustive (nothing important missing).
   Issue Tree Analysis
4. Distinguish system causes from individual causes in the analysis
   Most failures have system causes and individual causes; fixing only the individual leaves the system to produce the same result again.
   After-Action Review: The US Army’s Tool for Continuous Learning
5. Identify the three Ps in your explanation
   Check whether your explanation of a setback is permanent, pervasive, or personal — and how accurate each is.
   Learned Optimism: Seligman’s ABCDE Method
6. Pre-explanation rating with commitment
   Rate your understanding before attempting to explain — not after — and record the number.
   Illusion of Explanatory Depth: You Know Less Than You Think
7. Spend more time on "what did not go well" than on what did
   Failure analysis contains the most actionable information in any honest review.
   The Annual Review (Tim Ferriss Method)
8. Illusion of Explanatory Depth: You Know Less Than You Think
   The illusion of explanatory depth (IOED), documented by Rozenblit and Keil, is the systematic overestimation of how deeply you understand everyday mechanisms — devices, policies, biological processes. Most people believe they can explain how a toilet or a zipper works until asked to actually explain it, at which point their understanding collapses. The illusion is broken by requiring explanation at the mechanistic level rather than the narrative level.
9. Calibrate effort attributions carefully
   Attribute failure to insufficient effort only when more effort was genuinely the variable — not as a substitute for honest strategy analysis.
   Attributional Retraining, Made Practical
10. Run a pre-mortem from the outside-view perspective
    Imagine the project has failed — then ask which base-rate failure type caused it.
    The Outside View

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