Coaching practices for Fermi Estimation During Conflict

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  • My guesses never seem to get any better because I make them, find out the real answer, and then just move on
  • I tend to blurt out one confident-sounding number and act like it’s solid, when honestly I have no business being that sure
  • I land on a number and just go with it, never pausing to ask what’s the most it could possibly be or the least
  • The second we start disagreeing, all the warmth drains out and it’s pure opposition
  • We’re deadlocked because they’re certain the numbers will land one way and I’m just as certain they won’t

Practices that may help

  1. Fermi Estimation
    Fermi estimation is the practice of making rough but principled quantitative estimates by decomposing an unknown into knowable sub-problems, estimating each, and combining them. Named for physicist Enrico Fermi, who was renowned for accurate estimates from minimal data, it is used in science, engineering, and everyday decisions to calibrate intuitions and check whether a number is in the right ballpark — not to achieve false precision.
  2. Track your estimates and calibrate
    Compare your Fermi estimates to actual figures when you can, and use the gap to improve future estimates.
    Fermi Estimation
  3. Estimate in ranges, not point estimates
    Instead of "my estimate is 500," say "I think it is between 200 and 2000."
    Fermi Estimation
  4. Sanity-check against known extremes
    Test your estimate against the clearly too-high and too-low bounds to calibrate your range.
    Fermi Estimation
  5. Maintain positive tone even during disagreement
    The ratio matters most when you are fighting -- keep warmth and acknowledgment present inside conflict.
    The Magic Relationship Ratio: Gottman's 5-to-1 Principle
  6. Write contingent contracts when forecasts disagree
    If you and the other side have different predictions, let the outcome decide who was right.
    Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference
  7. Actively restore the ratio after a major rupture
    After a bad fight, the ratio is temporarily negative -- restoration requires intentional positive investment.
    The Magic Relationship Ratio: Gottman's 5-to-1 Principle
  8. Check units and scales for consistency
    Catch order-of-magnitude errors by ensuring your units are consistent across the estimate.
    Fermi Estimation
  9. Negotiate from abundance, not scarcity
    Question the assumption that what one side gains the other must lose.
    The Third Alternative, Made Practical
  10. Make repair attempts early and accept them graciously
    Use small signals to de-escalate conflict before it spirals — and receive them when offered.
    The 5-to-1 Positivity Ratio in Relationships

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