Coaching practices for Flourishing Model
Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Flourishing Model, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.
Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- On paper my life looks successful
- I’m good at what I do and life is fine, but everything has started to feel like reruns
- Something about my life feels off and I genuinely can’t name what
- I’m changing and growing on my own and they’re changing on theirs, but none of it is together
- My life is comfortable and on paper I’m fine, but it feels hollow and I can’t figure out why
Practices that may help
- Self-Expansion Model: How Relationships Grow (and Stagnate) Us
Arthur Aron’s self-expansion model proposes that people are motivated to grow — to expand their sense of self by incorporating new perspectives, skills, and resources — and that relationships are so motivating early on because they represent rapid self-expansion. The well-studied practical implication is that doing novel, challenging activities with a partner or close friend restores the expansion experience and revitalises closeness. The model has a substantial empirical base, primarily in romantic relationships. - Audit your life against PERMA
Check well-being across all five pillars — emotion, engagement, relationships, meaning, accomplishment.
Positive Psychology, Made Practical - Apply the self-expansion framework to individual growth, not only relationships
The same motivation that drives relational closeness also drives individual meaning — seeking growth for its own sake.
Self-Expansion Model: How Relationships Grow (and Stagnate) Us - Seligman’s PERMA Model, Made Practical
Martin Seligman’s PERMA model identifies five pillars of well-being: Positive Emotions, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, and Accomplishment. Unlike happiness models that treat well-being as a single variable, PERMA argues these five elements are each intrinsically valued and each independently improvable. Several PERMA-targeted interventions have randomized-trial support; others are mechanistically grounded with less direct evidence. - Run a PERMA audit of your current well-being
Rate each of the five PERMA pillars to find which is currently limiting your overall flourishing.
Seligman’s PERMA Model, Made Practical - Pursue personal growth that you share — not parallel but joint
Growing alongside a partner or friend, rather than separately, leverages the self-expansion mechanism for both people simultaneously.
Self-Expansion Model: How Relationships Grow (and Stagnate) Us - Measure flourishing, not just happiness
Regularly ask: am I flourishing as a human being — using my capacities well — or just feeling okay?
Virtue Ethics, Made Practical - Monitor and adjust your positivity ratio
Track the ratio of positive to negative emotional states in your day — not to suppress the negative, but to ensure the positive is present in proportion.
Broaden-and-Build, Made Practical - Protect expansion by resisting the slide into pure comfort
Long relationships naturally slide toward comfort and predictability — expansion requires deliberate re-injection of novelty.
Self-Expansion Model: How Relationships Grow (and Stagnate) Us - Broaden-and-Build, Made Practical
Barbara Fredrickson’s broaden-and-build theory proposes that positive emotions — joy, curiosity, love, gratitude, awe — temporarily broaden thought-action repertoires (making thinking more flexible and creative) and, over time, build durable psychological resources including resilience, social connection, and cognitive flexibility. The theory is supported by experimental evidence for the broadening effect; the longer-term building effects are primarily observational.
Related concerns
- Self Expansion Check
The same motivation that drives relational closeness also drives individual meaning — seeking growth for its own sake.
Apply the self-expansion framework to individual growth, not only relationships
- Arthur Aron Self Expansion
Arthur Aron’s self-expansion model proposes that people are motivated to grow — to expand their sense of self by incorporating new perspectives, skills, and resources — and that relationships are so motivating early on because they represent rapid self-expansion. The well-studied practical implication is that doing novel, challenging activities with a partner or close friend restores the expansion experience and revitalises closeness. The model has a substantial empirical base, primarily in romantic relationships.
- Growth Edge Relationship
Growth-edge training means consistently working just beyond your current comfort zone — where challenge slightly exceeds current ability. Research on skill acquisition and deliberate practice supports this as the most efficient zone for learning, though finding and staying at the edge requires honest self-assessment and structured feedback.
- Mutual Expansion
Growing alongside a partner or friend, rather than separately, leverages the self-expansion mechanism for both people simultaneously.
Pursue personal growth that you share — not parallel but joint
- Self Expansion Couples
New and slightly difficult shared experiences restore the self-expansion that keeps closeness alive.
Do novel, moderately challenging activities together
- Self Expansion Model How Relationships Grow And Stagnate Us After A Loss
Arthur Aron’s self-expansion model proposes that people are motivated to grow — to expand their sense of self by incorporating new perspectives, skills, and resources — and that relationships are so motivating early on because they represent rapid self-expansion. The well-studied practical implication is that doing novel, challenging activities with a partner or close friend restores the expansion experience and revitalises closeness. The model has a substantial empirical base, primarily in romantic relationships.
Describe your situation in your own words to search the complete practice library.