Coaching practices for Hell Yes or No Decision
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I say yes to almost everything that’s merely decent
- I say yes to almost everything, but I can’t tell anymore which yeses I actually want and which are just fear of what happens if I refuse
- I keep framing this as all-or-nothing
- In the moment someone asks, "sure" just falls out of my mouth because it feels easy and generous
- Everything on my plate is genuinely good, so I keep saying yes to all of it as if I could
Practices that may help
- Apply the extreme criteria filter ("If not hell yes, then no")
Raise your acceptance threshold so high that only clearly excellent opportunities pass.
Essentialism: The Art of Eliminating the Non-Essential - Ensure your yeses come from genuine willingness, not fear
Before saying yes, check whether you’re agreeing because you want to or because you’re afraid of what happens if you don’t.
Saying No and Holding Boundaries - Design decisions to be reversible where possible
Before accepting that a decision is one-way, ask whether you can redesign it to be two-way.
The Two-Way Door - Make "no" the default — saying yes should require active justification
Every yes costs future time and focus; treat it as a commitment that requires real justification.
Designing a Calm Company (Fried & Hansson) - Embrace trade-offs
Accept that saying yes to one thing means saying no to others — and choose deliberately.
Essentialism, Made Practical - Always name the specific thing you are giving up
When you say yes to something, say explicitly what you are saying no to.
Opportunity Cost Thinking: What You Give Up When You Choose - Maintain an explicit "no" list for categories of commitments
Pre-commit to declining entire categories of requests so each individual yes is forced to clear a higher bar.
Opportunity Cost Thinking: What You Give Up When You Choose - Ask "If you’re saying yes to this, what are you saying no to?"
Every yes is a yes-at-the-expense-of-something — making the trade-off explicit is the most useful thing a coach can do.
The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like - Slow down on one-way doors
For irreversible decisions, invest in deliberation proportional to the downside — not to your confidence.
The Two-Way Door - Check reversibility before you fear the downside
Most decisions are reversible; reserve maximum caution for the few that aren’t.
The Regret-Minimization Framework
Related concerns
- Cost Of Saying Yes
Every yes costs future time and focus; treat it as a commitment that requires real justification.
Make "no" the default — saying yes should require active justification
- Say Yes Say No Tradeoff
Accept that saying yes to one thing means saying no to others — and choose deliberately.
Embrace trade-offs
- When Essentialism Embrace Trade Offs
Accept that saying yes to one thing means saying no to others — and choose deliberately.
- When Opportunity Cost Thinking Name The Foregone Alternative
When you say yes to something, say explicitly what you are saying no to.
Always name the specific thing you are giving up
- When Saying No Boundaries Yes From Strength
Before saying yes, check whether you’re agreeing because you want to or because you’re afraid of what happens if you don’t.
Ensure your yeses come from genuine willingness, not fear
- When The Coaching Habit If You Say Yes To This
Every yes is a yes-at-the-expense-of-something — making the trade-off explicit is the most useful thing a coach can do.
Ask "If you’re saying yes to this, what are you saying no to?"
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