Coaching practices for Holding Space at Work

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  • I try to do my real work in the exact same spot, on the same screen, where I answer email and scroll and take calls
  • The second someone goes quiet in a heavy conversation, I rush to fill the gap with reassurance or another question
  • Every gap in my day, every pause in a conversation, I rush to fill — and I’ve got a nagging sense that all this packed busyness is exactly why nothing new ever has room to surface in me.
  • Guarding my focus time makes me feel guilty and a little unreachable, like I’m leaving people stranded
  • Someone I love opens up about something hard and I’m already three solutions deep before they finish

Practices that may help

  1. Holding Space
    Holding space means staying present with another person’s emotion without trying to fix it, judge it, or make it about you — offering a steady, non-reactive presence so they can feel what they feel and find their own way through. It works because a regulated, accepting presence helps co-regulate the other person’s nervous system; the term itself is practitioner language rather than a studied construct, but its components draw on solid clinical practice.
  2. Define your territory: where creative work belongs
    Name the specific space, time, and conditions that constitute your creative work territory and defend them.
    The War of Art, Made Practical
  3. Tolerate the silence
    Let pauses sit; silence gives the person room to feel and to find their own words.
    Holding Space
  4. Find the use of empty space
    Create deliberate emptiness — in your schedule, your mind, your output — and let it do its work.
    Wu Wei — the Practice of Effortless Action
  5. Offer office hours to concentrate collaboration
    Designate one or two open windows per day when collaborators can reach you freely, then protect everything else.
    Maker vs Manager Schedule
  6. Resist the urge to fix
    When someone shares pain, default to presence, not problem-solving.
    Holding Space
  7. Use a body double for low-initiation tasks
    Work in the physical or virtual presence of another person to borrow their initiation momentum.
    Task Initiation: Overcoming the Start Problem
  8. Trust their capacity to find their own way
    Hold the belief that they can move through this — don’t treat them as fragile or as a problem to manage.
    Holding Space
  9. Get "being away" psychological distance
    Use a setting that feels removed from your usual demands, not just physically different.
    Attention Restoration in Nature
  10. Protecting unscheduled time
    Leave deliberate gaps in the calendar instead of filling every hour.
    Slow Living, Made Practical

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