Coaching practices for Holding Space with My Team
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Someone I love opens up about something hard and I’m already three solutions deep before they finish
- The long-term work my team needs
- I love someone who’s struggling and I keep swooping in to manage it all for them, but I’m starting to see that treating them like they can’t handle it might be quietly telling them they can’t
- The second someone goes quiet in a heavy conversation, I rush to fill the gap with reassurance or another question
- When someone close to me starts spiraling, their panic jumps straight into my chest and suddenly I’m as worked up as they are
Practices that may help
- Holding Space
Holding space means staying present with another person’s emotion without trying to fix it, judge it, or make it about you — offering a steady, non-reactive presence so they can feel what they feel and find their own way through. It works because a regulated, accepting presence helps co-regulate the other person’s nervous system; the term itself is practitioner language rather than a studied construct, but its components draw on solid clinical practice. - Resist the urge to fix
When someone shares pain, default to presence, not problem-solving.
Holding Space - Protect important-not-urgent work as a team commitment
Schedule Q2 work on a shared calendar so urgent tasks can’t claim it by default.
The Eisenhower Matrix for Teams - Trust their capacity to find their own way
Hold the belief that they can move through this — don’t treat them as fragile or as a problem to manage.
Holding Space - Tolerate the silence
Let pauses sit; silence gives the person room to feel and to find their own words.
Holding Space - Regulate yourself first
You can only hold space from a settled state; your calm is the container.
Holding Space - Establish inclusion safety — belonging without conditions
Make every team member feel valued and accepted as a human being before expecting performance.
The Four Stages of Psychological Safety - Adjourning: close the team with intention
How a team ends shapes how each member begins the next one.
Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development - Create thinking space rather than filling every meeting with content
The most valuable thing a coaching manager provides is protected time and space for reflection — which most teams never get.
The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm - Performing: step back and protect the conditions
A Performing team needs air cover and resources, not direction.
Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development
Related concerns
- Holding Space
Holding space means staying present with another person’s emotion without trying to fix it, judge it, or make it about you — offering a steady, non-reactive presence so they can feel what they feel and find their own way through. It works because a regulated, accepting presence helps co-regulate the other person’s nervous system; the term itself is practitioner language rather than a studied construct, but its components draw on solid clinical practice.
- Holding Space As A Caregiver
Holding space means staying present with another person’s emotion without trying to fix it, judge it, or make it about you — offering a steady, non-reactive presence so they can feel what they feel and find their own way through. It works because a regulated, accepting presence helps co-regulate the other person’s nervous system; the term itself is practitioner language rather than a studied construct, but its components draw on solid clinical practice.
- Holding Space As A Parent
Holding space means staying present with another person’s emotion without trying to fix it, judge it, or make it about you — offering a steady, non-reactive presence so they can feel what they feel and find their own way through. It works because a regulated, accepting presence helps co-regulate the other person’s nervous system; the term itself is practitioner language rather than a studied construct, but its components draw on solid clinical practice.
- Holding Space During A Big Change
Holding space means staying present with another person’s emotion without trying to fix it, judge it, or make it about you — offering a steady, non-reactive presence so they can feel what they feel and find their own way through. It works because a regulated, accepting presence helps co-regulate the other person’s nervous system; the term itself is practitioner language rather than a studied construct, but its components draw on solid clinical practice.
- Holding Space For My Teenager
Holding space means staying present with another person’s emotion without trying to fix it, judge it, or make it about you — offering a steady, non-reactive presence so they can feel what they feel and find their own way through. It works because a regulated, accepting presence helps co-regulate the other person’s nervous system; the term itself is practitioner language rather than a studied construct, but its components draw on solid clinical practice.
- Holding Space When Burned Out
Find ways to maintain a domain’s floor through systems, others, or automation rather than your direct effort.
Outsource or delegate to keep a burner lit without your direct fuel
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