Coaching practices for How Do I Deal with an Emotionally Numb Feeling
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- The second something gets uncomfortable I reach for the phone or the wine or just more to do, and lately I’ve noticed the good stuff has gone flat too
- When they ask what’s wrong, all that comes out is “you ignored me” or “you don’t care”
- I’ve gone numb to the good things right in front of me
- I’m stuck at one of two extremes with hard feelings
- With feelings it’s all or nothing for me
Practices that may help
- Stop numbing vulnerability
Notice how you numb hard feelings — and feel them instead, because you can’t numb selectively.
Daring Greatly, Made Practical - Identifying and expressing feelings
Name the actual emotion underneath, distinct from thoughts disguised as feelings.
Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Made Practical - Mental subtraction (imagine it gone)
Briefly picture losing what you already have, to restore appreciation for it.
Premeditatio Malorum, in Depth - Mindful awareness of suffering
Hold painful feelings in balanced awareness — neither suppressing them nor being swept away by them.
Self-Compassion, Made Practical - Stay with sensation without flooding (titrate)
Build the capacity to feel a sensation in tolerable doses instead of numbing or being swept away.
Interoception, Explained - Give yourself permission to feel
Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical - Detecting the near enemy: indifference versus genuine equanimity
Regularly check whether your equanimity is warm and aware or merely emotionally flat.
Upekkha: Cultivating Equanimity in Meditation and Life - Come up from shutdown
When you are numb or foggy below the window, use stimulation to bring energy back up.
The Window of Tolerance: Your Optimal Arousal Zone - Validate the emotion as legitimate
Acknowledge that what they feel makes sense — without needing to agree with their conclusions.
Holding Space - Regular emotional check-in
Set aside a few minutes each day to honestly ask what you are actually feeling right now.
Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical
Related concerns
- How Do I Stop Feeling Emotionally Numb
Notice how you numb hard feelings — and feel them instead, because you can’t numb selectively.
Stop numbing vulnerability
- When Upekkha Equanimity Upekkha Near Enemy Check
Regularly check whether your equanimity is warm and aware or merely emotionally flat.
Detecting the near enemy: indifference versus genuine equanimity
- Why Do I Feel Emotionally Numb
Notice how you numb hard feelings — and feel them instead, because you can’t numb selectively.
- Why Do I Feel Emotionally Numb All The Time
Set aside a few minutes each day to honestly ask what you are actually feeling right now.
Regular emotional check-in
- Why Do I Feel Emotionally Numb Sometimes
Notice how you numb hard feelings — and feel them instead, because you can’t numb selectively.
- Emotional Numbness
Notice how you numb hard feelings — and feel them instead, because you can’t numb selectively.
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