Coaching practices for How Do I Help Someone with Depression

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• Things that used to be nothing
• I’ve gone quiet on everyone
• There’s no small good thing left in my days
• The moment someone’s upset I jump straight to solutions, and instead of feeling helped they pull back like I’ve dismissed them
• The person I’m trying to help has basically given up on themselves

Practices that may help

1. Grade activity difficulty upward gradually
   Start with the easiest feasible pleasant activity and increase demands only after success.
   Pleasant Events Scheduling, Made Practical
2. Schedule social contact as a priority activity
   Treat social interaction as a prescribed activity, not as something to do when you feel ready.
   Pleasant Events Scheduling, Made Practical
3. Pleasant events scheduling
   Deliberately introduce small pleasures into daily life — not as luxuries, but as antidepressants.
   Behavioral Activation: Acting Your Way Out of Low Mood
4. Attune before you fix
   Match the other person’s feeling and pace first; solutions land only after they feel met.
   Co-Regulation: Borrowing Calm From Another Nervous System
5. Affirm genuine strengths and effort
   Notice and name real strengths the person brings — not empty praise.
   Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical
6. Activity monitoring: track what you do and how it affects your mood
   Log your activities hourly for a week alongside your mood — to see what is actually helping or hurting.
   Behavioral Activation: Acting Your Way Out of Low Mood
7. Problem-Solving Therapy, Made Practical
   Problem-Solving Therapy (PST), developed by Nezu and D’Zurilla, treats depression and anxiety by building structured, step-by-step problem-solving skills — targeting the learned helplessness and avoidance that occur when people face stressful life problems without an effective coping framework. Multiple randomised trials support PST for depression, especially when linked to real-life problem load.
8. Anchor activity to personal values
   Choose pleasant activities that also connect to what genuinely matters to you, not just what is easy.
   Pleasant Events Scheduling, Made Practical
9. Track mood alongside activity
   Record mood ratings before and after activities to identify what genuinely lifts versus drains you.
   Pleasant Events Scheduling, Made Practical
10. Direct tonglen toward a specific suffering person
    Bring a person who is suffering to mind and breathe in their pain; breathe out whatever would give them relief.
    Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending

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