Coaching practices for How Do I Stop Criticising Myself

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• The voice I turn on myself after I mess up is brutal in a way I’d never speak to anyone else
• The voice in my head feels like just me
• I’d never speak to anyone else the way I speak to myself
• The critic in my head runs nonstop but it’s all a blur
• The harsh thoughts move so fast in my head I can’t get any grip on them

Practices that may help

1. Ahimsa toward the self: replacing self-attack with self-compassion
   Treat yourself after a failure the way you would treat a good friend in the same situation.
   Ahimsa: Non-Violence as a Daily Practice
2. Name and externalize the inner critic
   Give the critic a name and treat it as a character, not the truth about you.
   Working With Your Inner Critic
3. Replace critic monologue with compassionate self-talk
   Speak to yourself the way you would speak to a close friend in the same situation.
   Working With Your Inner Critic
4. Recognizing Shame and Self-Criticism Patterns
   Name the specific self-critical scripts and their triggers before trying to change them.
   Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic
5. Working With Your Inner Critic
   The inner critic is not silenced by arguing with it or fighting it — it is disarmed by recognizing it as a learned protective strategy and responding with the same warmth you would offer a struggling friend. Self-compassion practices show reliable effects on self-criticism and psychological well-being in multiple meta-analyses.
6. Critic journaling — transcript and response
   Write what the critic says in one column; write a compassionate adult response in the other.
   Working With Your Inner Critic
7. Apply self-compassion when comparison creates self-criticism
   When comparison activates self-criticism, meet it with the response you would give a close friend.
   Social Comparison Online: What the Research Actually Shows
8. "Thank you, mind" — defusing the inner critic with friendly acknowledgment
   When a harsh inner critic fires, respond with "Thank you, mind, for trying to protect me."
   Cognitive Defusion (ACT), Made Practical
9. Identify your Self 1 interference in real time
   Notice when your inner critic is instructing, judging, or catastrophizing — and name it as Self 1.
   The Inner Game: Quieting Self 1
10. Reframe the critic’s verdict as data, not identity
    When the critic says "you failed," redirect to "what can I learn?" — a specific question, not a pep talk.
    Working With Your Inner Critic

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