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- After we fight we just let it sit for days with neither of us reaching out, and the hurt quietly piles up until I start reading even neutral things they do as another little jab
- They handled the money, or the cooking, or were just the person I leaned on
- Something I built my life around has ended
- I’ve been keeping it together by staying busy and not letting myself fall apart, but the grief I keep shoving down isn’t shrinking
- The instant there’s any conflict my mind screams that this means we’re broken, that good couples don’t fight
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- Repair quickly and thoroughly
Don’t let injuries accumulate — repair within hours or days, not weeks.
Secure-Functioning Relationships - Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Reframing loss as transformation
When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift - Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Treat rupture as normal, not as failure
Disconnection in close relationships is inevitable; the standard is repair, not perfection.
Rupture and Repair - Task 4: Find an enduring connection with the deceased
Relocate the relationship from physical presence to an internal, meaningful connection.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Rupture and Repair
Ruptures — the inevitable misattunements, conflicts, and disconnections in any close relationship — are normal and unavoidable; what builds security is reliable repair afterward. Research from infant still-face studies, couples work, and psychotherapy all converges on the same finding: relationships are not made secure by avoiding rupture but by the predictable experience that disconnection can be named and reconnected. - Debrief and repair after the conflict is over
The conversation after the fight -- done calmly -- is where lasting repair happens.
Repair Attempts: Gottman's Key to Surviving Conflict in Relationships - Recognize and reinvest in deepened relationships
Notice which relationships grew closer through the hardship, and deliberately invest back in them.
Benefit-Finding: Locating Meaning and Growth in Adversity - Reconstruct your identity post-loss
Actively develop the new self that emerges when a core relationship or role is gone.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical
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Compare how you actually coped to your plan — the gap is your next training target.
Review what happened after the event to refine the next cope ahead
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Compare how you actually coped to your plan — the gap is your next training target.
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Compare how you actually coped to your plan — the gap is your next training target.
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