Coaching practices for How to Be Less Jealous in an Open Relationship

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• My partner and I have boiled our talking down to schedules and chores, and it hit me that the version of them in my head is years out of date
• I’m curious about my partner but I give almost nothing of myself back
• My partner sided with their family over me again, or didn’t back me up in front of others, and I’m left unsure whether they’ll actually put us first when it counts
• In the most intimate moments with my partner my eyes close or slide away on their own
• I’m warmer and lighter with near-strangers than I am with my own partner

Practices that may help

1. Practice openness through regular self-disclosure
   Share your thoughts, feelings, and daily experiences — not just problems.
   Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
2. Share your own inner world to build the map reciprocally
   Let your partner map you -- disclose what is actually on your mind, not just the surface.
   Love Maps: Knowing Your Partner's Inner World
3. Create and protect the couple bubble
   Agree that you each put the relationship above any third party, including family of origin.
   Secure-Functioning Relationships
4. Eyes-open intimacy: contact without merger
   Practice making genuine eye contact during vulnerable or sexual moments as an act of self-disclosure rather than merger.
   Differentiation of Self: David Schnarch’s Framework for Passionate Marriage
5. Maintain positivity as a daily practice
   Be pleasant, cheerful, and avoid criticism as a baseline — not only when things are good.
   Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
6. Expand the Open area through deliberate self-disclosure
   Share what you know about yourself that others don’t — reducing the Hidden quadrant.
   The Johari Window
7. Lower your guard to raise the intimacy score
   Sharing something real about yourself makes others feel safer sharing something real with you.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
8. The erotic gaze: seeing your partner freshly
   Deliberately practice seeing your partner as a stranger might — with curiosity, not familiarity.
   Mating in Captivity: Sustaining Desire in Long-Term Relationships
9. Practice calibrated self-disclosure to allow genuine connection
   Share something true about your inner experience — not performed, not calculated — to let someone in.
   Radical Openness: The RO-DBT Approach to Overcontrol and Loneliness
10. Ask open-ended map-building questions
    Replace generic check-ins with questions that open a window into your partner's inner life.
    Love Maps: Knowing Your Partner's Inner World

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