Coaching practices for How to Confront Friend Who Won't Give Back Borrowed Money

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• If a friend brought me this exact dilemma I’d know in two seconds what they should do, but stuck inside my own version I just go in circles
• I’d never hand a stranger my money, but I give away my hours to whoever asks without a second thought
• Just telling someone I’ll do it isn’t enough to actually move me
• If a friend told me they’d blown off this exact thing I’d be gentle and kind to them in a heartbeat, yet to myself I’m brutal
• I won’t let go of this thing I own

Practices that may help

1. Give yourself advice as if advising a close friend
   Describe your problem as if a close friend brought it to you — then write the advice you would give them.
   Self-Distancing Journaling
2. Treat time as your only real wealth
   Guard your hours the way you guard your money — most people do the opposite.
   Seneca on Time, Made Practical
3. Attach a real consequence to misses
   Agree in advance on a concrete cost for not following through.
   Accountability Partners
4. Extend the compassion you would give a friend to yourself
   Ask what you would say to a capable friend who had delayed on the same task — then say that.
   Self-Forgiveness and Procrastination
5. Audit the endowment effect
   You overvalue what you already own simply because it is yours — price it as a stranger would.
   Loss Aversion, Made Practical
6. Choose a partner who will actually hold the line
   Pick someone invested enough to ask hard questions, not a friend who will let it slide.
   Accountability Partners
7. Recognize and counter money avoidance patterns
   Money avoidance — "money is bad," "rich people are greedy" — leads to self-sabotage disguised as virtue.
   Money Scripts, Made Practical
8. Advise yourself as you would a friend
   Ask what you would tell a friend in exactly your situation — then take your own advice.
   Self-Distancing: Thinking Clearly About Your Own Problems
9. Make the step-down visibly deliberate
   A concession that is invisible or unexplained carries no reciprocity weight.
   The Door-in-the-Face Technique, Made Practical
10. Apply reciprocity in feedback conversations
    Offer a genuine concession or acknowledgment of your own role before asking someone to change.
    The Rule of Reciprocity, Made Practical

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