Coaching practices for How to Cope with Emotional Abuse
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Once the hard thing is over I just want to bury it and never think about it again
- I keep noticing the same move
- I feel the jealousy or the hurt and then immediately pile on a second layer of "I shouldn’t feel this, a mature person wouldn’t"
- I’ve got my go-to ways of coping that feel justified and even comforting in the moment, but when I’m honest nothing is actually getting better
- I keep making plans and trying to fix something that genuinely can’t be fixed
Practices that may help
- Review what happened after the event to refine the next cope ahead
Compare how you actually coped to your plan — the gap is your next training target.
Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations - Identifying and challenging dysfunctional coping modes
Spot when you’re in surrender, avoidance, or overcompensation mode — and the schema need underneath it.
Schema Therapy: Healing Early Maladaptive Beliefs - Give yourself permission to feel
Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical - Ask the workability question
Ask "is what I am doing working?" — not "is it right?" but whether it is moving you toward the life you want.
Emotional Agility, Made Practical - Apply emotion-focused coping to uncontrollable stressors
When the stressor cannot be changed, invest your energy in how you relate to the experience rather than fighting the situation.
Lazarus Appraisal Theory, Made Practical - R — Recall the hurt
Face what happened deliberately and calmly, without minimizing it or replaying it as a victim.
Forgiveness: The REACH Model - Match coping mode to what is actually controllable
Use problem-focused coping when you can change the situation; emotion-focused coping when you cannot.
Stress Inoculation Training - Check the facts and opposite action
Test whether an emotion fits the facts; if it doesn’t, act opposite to its urge to change it.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills, Made Practical - Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Access and name the underlying attachment emotion
Beneath the surface argument is a primary emotion -- usually fear, longing, or grief -- that drives the cycle.
Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair
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Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
Give yourself permission to feel
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Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
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Name the emotions instead of leaking them — unspoken feelings don’t leave, they distort.
Bring feelings into the conversation deliberately
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Beneath the surface argument is a primary emotion -- usually fear, longing, or grief -- that drives the cycle.
Access and name the underlying attachment emotion
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Face what happened deliberately and calmly, without minimizing it or replaying it as a victim.
R — Recall the hurt
- Coping Strategies That Work
Ask "is what I am doing working?" — not "is it right?" but whether it is moving you toward the life you want.
Ask the workability question
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