Coaching practices for How to Cope with Job You Hate

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• I burn enormous energy trying to fix things that aren’t mine to fix, and then go quiet and just stew over the things I actually could do something about
• I do the same grind every day
• There’s a real part of this I could actually do something about, but instead of acting I just sit and stew in how I feel about it
• There’s one hard thing I’m dreading, so I "warm up" on easy busywork to feel productive
• I keep making plans and trying to fix something that genuinely can’t be fixed

Practices that may help

1. Match coping mode to what is actually controllable
   Use problem-focused coping when you can change the situation; emotion-focused coping when you cannot.
   Stress Inoculation Training
2. Find the Sisyphus move in your own work
   Identify a repetitive, seemingly pointless task — and choose to inhabit it fully rather than escaping it.
   Absurdism and the Practice of Meaning Despite
3. Apply problem-focused coping to changeable stressors
   When the stressor is changeable, direct your energy at the situation rather than managing feelings about it.
   Lazarus Appraisal Theory, Made Practical
4. Do the hardest task first
   Tackle your single most important, most-dreaded task before anything else in the day.
   Eat That Frog, Made Practical
5. Apply emotion-focused coping to uncontrollable stressors
   When the stressor cannot be changed, invest your energy in how you relate to the experience rather than fighting the situation.
   Lazarus Appraisal Theory, Made Practical
6. Build and work a target list of roles and organisations
   Replace passive job board browsing with active research into specific organisations you want to understand.
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
7. Review what happened after the event to refine the next cope ahead
   Compare how you actually coped to your plan — the gap is your next training target.
   Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations
8. Ask the workability question
   Ask "is what I am doing working?" — not "is it right?" but whether it is moving you toward the life you want.
   Emotional Agility, Made Practical
9. Apply the matrix at the role level, not just the task level
   Audit which of your entire roles or commitments are Q1, Q2, Q3, or Q4 — not just individual tasks.
   The Eisenhower Life Audit
10. Imagine losing your work or income
    Briefly contemplate life without your current livelihood, to loosen financial anxiety and restore perspective.
    Negative Visualization, the Stoic Practice

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