Coaching practices for How to Cope with Work

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• Once the hard thing is over I just want to bury it and never think about it again
• I burn enormous energy trying to fix things that aren’t mine to fix, and then go quiet and just stew over the things I actually could do something about
• I’ve got my go-to ways of coping that feel justified and even comforting in the moment, but when I’m honest nothing is actually getting better
• I could list ten things that went wrong at work today without blinking but I’d struggle to name one that went right
• There’s a real part of this I could actually do something about, but instead of acting I just sit and stew in how I feel about it

Practices that may help

1. Review what happened after the event to refine the next cope ahead
   Compare how you actually coped to your plan — the gap is your next training target.
   Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations
2. Match coping mode to what is actually controllable
   Use problem-focused coping when you can change the situation; emotion-focused coping when you cannot.
   Stress Inoculation Training
3. Ask the workability question
   Ask "is what I am doing working?" — not "is it right?" but whether it is moving you toward the life you want.
   Emotional Agility, Made Practical
4. Apply three good things to work contexts specifically
   Use the exercise to rewire what you notice about your work day — contribution, competence, and collaboration.
   Three Good Things: The Evidence-Based Gratitude Practice
5. Apply problem-focused coping to changeable stressors
   When the stressor is changeable, direct your energy at the situation rather than managing feelings about it.
   Lazarus Appraisal Theory, Made Practical
6. Select the specific coping skills you will use — in advance
   Choose which DBT or other coping skills you will deploy at each difficult moment, before you are in it.
   Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations
7. Use a 15-minute end-of-day planning buffer to close the day’s loops
   Before leaving work, take 15 minutes to list tomorrow’s priorities and explicitly close today’s open loops.
   The Zeigarnik Effect: How Unfinished Tasks Occupy Your Mind
8. Apply emotion-focused coping to uncontrollable stressors
   When the stressor cannot be changed, invest your energy in how you relate to the experience rather than fighting the situation.
   Lazarus Appraisal Theory, Made Practical
9. Inventory your coping resources (secondary appraisal)
   After identifying the threat, systematically assess what you actually have to work with — your options are likely more than the stressed mind sees.
   Lazarus Appraisal Theory, Made Practical
10. Coping Questions
    When things seem terrible, ask how the person is managing at all — acknowledging and excavating their resilience.
    Solution-Focused Brief Therapy: Building On What Works

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