Coaching practices for How to Cope with Workplace Bullying

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  • I’ve told my people a hundred times they can disagree with me, but they still don’t
  • Once a fight gets going I can feel I’ve passed the point where anything good comes out of my mouth, but I don’t know how to step away without it looking like I’m storming off or quitting on the person.
  • I can stay calm reading about it, but the moment I’m actually in the situation all my good intentions vanish and I react
  • I could list ten things that went wrong at work today without blinking but I’d struggle to name one that went right
  • There’s one person on my team everyone’s decided is just a complainer, and I keep noticing they’re actually pointing at the thing nobody wants to face

Practices that may help

  1. Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up
    Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
    Psychological Safety in Teams
  2. Take a structured time-out
    Exit the provocation situation temporarily with a plan to re-engage — not as avoidance, but as arousal regulation.
    Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical
  3. Graduated anger inoculation (stress inoculation exposure)
    Practice coping with anger in imagination — from mild triggers to intense ones — before you face them live.
    Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical
  4. Apply three good things to work contexts specifically
    Use the exercise to rewire what you notice about your work day — contribution, competence, and collaboration.
    Three Good Things: The Evidence-Based Gratitude Practice
  5. Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
    Managing up means proactively understanding your manager’s priorities, communication style, and constraints — then adapting how you work and communicate to make the partnership effective. Done well it is collaborative rather than manipulative: it reduces friction, builds trust, and creates space for greater autonomy. The evidence base is primarily organizational behavior research on leader-member exchange and practitioner consensus.
  6. Give voice to those with uncomfortable perspectives
    Actively surface and protect the dissenting or marginal voices the system wants to silence.
    Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
  7. Send proactive, brief status updates
    Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
  8. Understand the constraints your manager operates under
    Ask about the pressures and constraints your manager faces — then factor them into your expectations and requests.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
  9. Match coping mode to what is actually controllable
    Use problem-focused coping when you can change the situation; emotion-focused coping when you cannot.
    Stress Inoculation Training
  10. Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
    Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss

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