Coaching practices for How to Deal with Toddler Discipline and Tantrums
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- My kid is mid-meltdown and I’m kneeling there explaining why they can’t have it, getting more reasonable while they get more wild, and none of my logic is landing
- We keep having the exact same blow-up over the exact same thing, and I’m starting to wonder if my kid genuinely doesn’t know how to handle that moment any other way
- There are a few situations that go badly every single time
- My kid melts down and my instinct is to fix it or shut it down fast, and the tantrum just gets bigger
- I keep trying to reason with my kid right in the middle of the meltdown
Practices that may help
- Connect emotionally before you redirect or teach
The downstairs brain has to be acknowledged before the upstairs brain can hear anything.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
Children misbehave partly because they don’t know how to do the right thing — teach the skill when everyone is calm.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Plan behavior management strategies in advance
Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Labeling emotions in children: the parenting application
When a child is upset, name their emotion aloud and validate it before attempting to solve or redirect.
Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice - Hold Plan B conversations proactively, not reactively
Solve the problem before the next explosion, when everyone is calm.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Follow through on the stated consequence calmly and without anger
The consequence teaches; the anger confuses — keep them separate.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Be responsive to the child’s needs, not reactive to their behavior
Responsiveness means tuning into what the child actually needs; reactivity means responding to what their behavior triggers in you.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind) - Refuse to energize negative behavior
Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Use time-out to regulate, not to punish
A restorative time-out is a calming tool the child chooses — not a punishment space.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
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Connect emotionally before you redirect or teach
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Be responsive to the child’s needs, not reactive to their behavior
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When a child is upset, name their emotion aloud and validate it before attempting to solve or redirect.
Labeling emotions in children: the parenting application
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