Coaching practices for How to Get Over Being Ghosted and Blocked

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• I keep telling myself to just move past what they did and not make a big deal of it, so I never actually look the hurt in the face
• When it gets heated I just go blank and shut down
• I know in my head that they’re gone, but it still hasn’t landed
• I thought I’d let it go, and then weeks later the old anger floods back out of nowhere
• I genuinely reached a moment where I felt I’d forgiven them, but the feeling faded and the hurt crept back, and now I’m not even sure it counted

Practices that may help

1. R — Recall the hurt
   Face what happened deliberately and calmly, without minimizing it or replaying it as a victim.
   Forgiveness: The REACH Model
2. Self-soothe and signal when stonewalling
   If you are flooded, take a real break and signal it clearly -- then return.
   The Four Horsemen: Gottman's Warning Signs of Relationship Breakdown
3. Task 1: Accept the full reality of the loss
   Move from intellectual acknowledgement to full emotional acceptance that the person is gone.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
4. H — Hold on when the hurt comes back
   When resentment returns, don’t take it as proof you failed — recall your commitment and re-choose.
   Forgiveness: The REACH Model
5. C — Commit publicly to the forgiveness you felt
   Mark the forgiveness concretely — write it, say it, date it — so you can return to it later.
   Forgiveness: The REACH Model
6. Withdrawer: signal presence before retreating
   Before you need to step back, tell your partner you are coming back.
   The Pursuer-Withdrawer Cycle, Explained
7. Use a small ask to repair a strained relationship
   In a cool or conflicted relationship, asking for a small favor can reset the dynamic more effectively than doing one.
   The Ben Franklin Effect, Made Practical
8. Separate forgiving from reconciling
   Forgiveness is internal and unilateral; reconciliation requires the other person to become trustworthy again.
   Forgiveness: The REACH Model
9. The integration letter to a disowned part
   Write directly to the trait, impulse, or capacity you most want to disown — then listen for its response.
   Shadow Work
10. A — Give the Altruistic gift of forgiveness
    Recall a time you were forgiven, and offer forgiveness as a gift rather than a transaction.
    Forgiveness: The REACH Model

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