Coaching practices for How to Get Over Social Anxiety at Work
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Every time I dodge a social thing I feel relief in the moment, but the next one feels even scarier
- The hardest moments are the joins and the exits
- I shrink my life down to avoid any chance of looking foolish
- It’s not that I don’t care about people
- After an awkward moment I’m convinced people will be replaying it about me for weeks
Practices that may help
- Use graduated social exposure
Start with low-stakes social interactions and systematically increase difficulty.
Overcoming Shyness: Philip Zimbardo’s Framework - Build scripts for situation entry and transitions
Prepare simple, natural openers and transitions so you’re not improvising from scratch under pressure.
Overcoming Shyness: Philip Zimbardo’s Framework - Overcoming Shyness: Philip Zimbardo’s Framework
Philip Zimbardo’s research defined shyness as a fear of social judgement that produces self-focused attention and avoidance — not an inborn trait. His framework treats it as a learnable problem with concrete skills on the other side: social knowledge, graduated exposure, and reattributing internal arousal. The evidence draws on anxiety, self-efficacy, and social learning research; the specific Zimbardo program is largely clinical and practitioner-grounded. - Shame-attacking exercises
Do something mildly embarrassing on purpose to prove you can survive and function through discomfort.
Unconditional Self-Acceptance - Practise specific conversation micro-skills
Most shy people don’t lack social instinct — they lack a few specific skills in conversation pacing, questions, and listening.
Overcoming Shyness: Philip Zimbardo’s Framework - Run the "did it matter?" check 24 hours later
Before assuming a social blunder is remembered, wait a day and ask if it was ever mentioned.
The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching - Shift attention from self to situation
Redirect your attention from monitoring yourself to genuinely engaging with the other person.
Overcoming Shyness: Philip Zimbardo’s Framework - Deliberately enter low-stakes discomfort
Regularly choose small situations that trigger the target anxiety so the nervous system learns it is survivable.
The Confidence–Competence Loop - Situational attentional refocusing: shift from self to situation
In anxiety-provoking situations, actively redirect attention outward — to the task, the other person, the environment.
Metacognitive Therapy, Made Practical - Cope-ahead planning for high-stakes interactions
Rehearse a difficult conversation in detail — mentally and verbally — before it happens.
DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship
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