Coaching practices for How Do I Heal From Having a Narcissistic or Emotionally Unavailable Parent

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• Whatever I’m feeling, I pile on top of it
• When the scared, ashamed part of me shows up, my first move is to snap at it to grow up
• There was one moment when I needed them most
• There’s one moment when I needed them and they weren’t there, and even though it was a while ago it still sits between us
• I keep telling myself to just move past what they did and not make a big deal of it, so I never actually look the hurt in the face

Practices that may help

1. N — Nurture with self-compassion
   Offer the part that is suffering what it most needs — care, acknowledgment, reassurance — as you would a dear friend.
   RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice
2. Self-applied limited reparenting
   Treat the vulnerable child mode in yourself with the care and limits that childhood should have provided.
   Schema Therapy: Healing Early Maladaptive Beliefs
3. Repair an attachment injury
   Specific relationship betrayals -- moments when you were not there -- need a specific repair, not just time.
   Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair
4. Revisit a hurtful moment -- and repair it
   Going back to a painful past moment together, with new understanding, is how attachment injuries heal.
   Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love
5. R — Recall the hurt
   Face what happened deliberately and calmly, without minimizing it or replaying it as a victim.
   Forgiveness: The REACH Model
6. Identify and meet the underlying unmet need
   Behind every schema is an unmet childhood need; learn to provide what you needed, in a healthy way, today.
   Schema Therapy: Healing Early Maladaptive Beliefs
7. Make a coherent story of your past
   Reflect on your early relationships until you can tell a clear, integrated narrative of them.
   Attachment Theory, Made Usable
8. RAIN — Nurture (offer what is needed)
   Give the hurting part the care it actually needs — a phrase, a hand on the heart, a kind tone.
   Radical Acceptance, Made Practical
9. Meeting exiles (with care)
   Gently turn toward the wounded, exiled parts that protectors work to keep hidden.
   Internal Family Systems (IFS), Made Practical
10. Witness the exile fully before any release
    Let the wounded part show you everything it has been carrying — without rushing to fix, resolve, or move on.
    IFS Unburdening, Made Practical

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