Coaching practices for How to Move on From Emotional Affair

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• There was one moment when I needed them most
• I keep telling myself to just move past what they did and not make a big deal of it, so I never actually look the hurt in the face
• People keep telling me I need to let them go and move on, and everything in me refuses
• After the baby, the move, the hard year, we just quietly stopped reaching for each other
• We both understand our pattern perfectly by now

Practices that may help

1. Repair an attachment injury
   Specific relationship betrayals -- moments when you were not there -- need a specific repair, not just time.
   Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair
2. R — Recall the hurt
   Face what happened deliberately and calmly, without minimizing it or replaying it as a victim.
   Forgiveness: The REACH Model
3. Task 4: Find an enduring connection with the deceased
   Relocate the relationship from physical presence to an internal, meaningful connection.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
4. Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair
   Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), developed by Sue Johnson, is a couples intervention grounded in attachment theory: it treats distress in close relationships as an attachment injury, and focuses on creating new emotional experiences that rebuild the sense of safe, reliable connection. EFT has one of the stronger evidence bases in couples therapy, with multiple randomized controlled trials showing sustained improvement -- though findings are not uniformly positive and many studies are small.
5. Rekindling after a drift: returning to aliveness
   Recognize a drift in erotic connection as normal — and name it as the beginning of a renewal, not a failure.
   Mating in Captivity: Sustaining Desire in Long-Term Relationships
6. Create corrective emotional experiences together
   The goal is not to understand the pattern intellectually -- it is to have a new emotional experience of safety within it.
   Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair
7. Build a concrete accountability agreement
   Accountability is a plan, not just a feeling — write down what will be done, by whom, and by when.
   Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr)
8. Access and name the underlying attachment emotion
   Beneath the surface argument is a primary emotion -- usually fear, longing, or grief -- that drives the cycle.
   Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair
9. Revisit a hurtful moment -- and repair it
   Going back to a painful past moment together, with new understanding, is how attachment injuries heal.
   Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love
10. Identify and name your negative cycle
    Every stuck couple has a predictable escalation pattern -- naming it lets you step outside it.
    Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair

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