Coaching practices for How Do I Process Grief as Part of My Shadow Work and Healing
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- I’ve been keeping it together by staying busy and not letting myself fall apart, but the grief I keep shoving down isn’t shrinking
- I keep my head down and stay busy so I never actually feel the loss, and now it ambushes me at random and won’t metabolize
- The grief ambushes me at the worst times
- I deal with my grief by doing and fixing rather than weeping, and everyone keeps treating that as cold or in denial
- My memories of them and of how it happened come at me in scattered, jagged pieces with no order to them, and I keep replaying the end on a loop
Practices that may help
- Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Create a deliberate grief window
Schedule bounded time to grieve, protecting both the grief process and the rest of life.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Shadow Work
Shadow work is the process of becoming aware of — and integrating — the parts of yourself you have disowned, suppressed, or never examined: the traits, impulses, and capabilities you hide from others and from yourself. Rooted in Jungian psychology, it is a clinically used framework rather than a rigorously trialed intervention; the mechanistic rationale is strong and aligns with modern emotion regulation and self-concept research. - Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Construct a coherent narrative of the loss
Tell the full story of the loss — who the person was, what happened, and what life is now.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Treating grief as a form of gratitude
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Identify how cultural norms shape your grief
Examine whether cultural scripts about how long and how much to grieve are shaping your experience.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Deliberately take time off from grief
Give yourself genuine permission to engage with ordinary life — this is restoration orientation, not avoidance.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Validate your own grief without waiting for external permission
Give yourself the recognition that society has withheld — your loss is real because it matters to you.
Disenfranchised Grief, Made Practical
Related concerns
- How To Process Grief And Loss
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
- Calming Grief Surge
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Havening to soften acute grief activation
- Dual Process Model Grief
The Dual Process Model (DPM), developed by Margaret Stroebe and Henk Schut, describes healthy grief as oscillation between two orientations: loss-oriented (engaging with the pain of losing the person) and restoration-oriented (attending to the practical and identity challenges of life without them). The model is well-regarded in grief research and provides a framework for understanding why taking breaks from grief is healthy, not avoidant.
- Grief Window Technique
Schedule bounded time to grieve, protecting both the grief process and the rest of life.
Create a deliberate grief window
- Healthy Grief Processing
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
- How Can Grief And Loss Affect Your Work
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
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