Coaching practices for How to Use a Mentor

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• When I’m facing a big decision I realize I have no one wise and honest to think it through with
• I only ever coach in the rare formal sit-down and then default to firing off answers in every quick hallway exchange
• I’ve got a new hire starting and the lazy move is to just hand them whatever’s piled up in the backlog
• I keep noticing that two people I know should really meet
• I’ve hit the goals I set and they feel strangely empty now, and what I quietly want is to pour what I’ve learned into someone coming up behind me

Practices that may help

1. Build a personal board of advisers
   Curate a small group of diverse, trusted people who know your work and challenge your thinking.
   Never Eat Alone: Building a Real Network
2. Use GROW in brief leadership conversations, not just formal coaching sessions
   Apply GROW structure to 5-minute hallway conversations and 1-on-1 check-ins — not only to hour-long coaching sessions.
   The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
3. Use genius mapping in onboarding
   Surface a new hire’s geniuses early so you design their role around energy, not just skills.
   The 6 Types of Working Genius (Patrick Lencioni)
4. Become the connector in every room
   Make it your personal brand to know who should meet whom.
   Never Eat Alone: Building a Real Network
5. Engage generativity — the natural work of midlife and later seasons
   Midlife and later seasons are calling for contribution, mentorship, and transmission — not just personal achievement.
   Seasons of Life
6. Reciprocate when your leader invests in you
   When a leader gives you trust, opportunity, or advocacy, close the loop with visible follow-through.
   Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
7. Learn with someone more capable than you
   A skilled partner lifts your performance into new territory you cannot reach alone.
   Zone of Proximal Development: Learning at Your Real Edge
8. Acknowledge what you heard before advancing to advice
   A solution offered before the speaker feels heard is usually rejected, even when it is correct.
   The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm
9. The Protege Effect: Learn It Better by Teaching It
   The protege effect is the finding that people learn material more deeply when they teach it — or even just prepare to teach it — than when they study it for themselves. Experiments support that expecting to teach, and then explaining to a real or stand-in learner, drives more organized, durable understanding, largely because teaching forces you to confront the gaps in your own knowledge.
10. Raise awareness and build responsibility simultaneously
    Help the person see their situation more clearly while also connecting them to their ownership of it.
    The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People

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