Coaching practices for I Keep Bleeding Love Cover

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• We’re both trying so hard and somehow both ending up feeling unloved, and I’m starting to think we’re each pouring love in the exact form we’d want to get it back
• I can never answer "what do you love?" when someone asks me straight out
• The second someone gets close to a tender spot I feel myself slam shut and go cold or pull back
• There’s one moment when I needed them and they weren’t there, and even though it was a while ago it still sits between us
• My partner says all the sweet words, but I’m drowning in everything I’m carrying and nobody’s lifting any of it off me

Practices that may help

1. Discovering and acting on each other’s languages
   Find out — by asking and observing — how each partner most readily feels loved, then act on it.
   The Five Love Languages, Honestly
2. Follow flow as a clue
   Track the activities where time disappears — they point toward love and skill at once.
   Ikigai, Honestly Explained
3. Keeping your inner gate open
   Choose to stay open and present rather than closing down when life pushes on your sensitivities.
   The Untethered Soul, In Practice
4. Revisit a hurtful moment -- and repair it
   Going back to a painful past moment together, with new understanding, is how attachment injuries heal.
   Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love
5. Acts of service
   Show love by doing things that ease your partner’s load — chores, errands, follow-through.
   The Five Love Languages, Honestly
6. Write a standing letter for recurring self-criticism
   Draft a compassionate response to your most persistent self-attack and keep it available.
   The Self-Compassion Letter, Made Practical
7. Full presence with something passing
   Deliberately be present for the last or near-last moment of something — a season, a stage, a relationship — without numbing.
   Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things
8. Build the inflow before trying to stop the outflow
   In depleted stocks, restoring an inflow is usually more tractable than eliminating the outflow.
   Stocks and Flows
9. Letting go as a moment-to-moment practice
   Make releasing — rather than gripping — your default response to whatever arises during the day.
   The Untethered Soul, In Practice
10. The last conversation
    Enter a conversation with someone you love as if it might be the last one you have with them.
    The Last Time Meditation

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