Coaching practices for Identifying Safety Behaviors

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  • I’ve got all these little things I do to get through anxious moments
  • On the outside I’m facing the thing, but inside I’m rehearsing every line, mapping the exits, silently bracing
  • I get through the hard situations, but only with my little crutches
  • Every time I get through a feared situation I credit the crutch
  • I can get through the scary thing now, but only with my little crutches

Practices that may help

  1. Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
    Safety behaviors are actions people take to prevent feared outcomes during anxious situations — sitting to avoid fainting, avoiding eye contact to seem less socially threatening, checking repeatedly to prevent disaster. Paul Salkovskis identified them as a central maintenance mechanism: they prevent the person from learning that the feared outcome would not have happened anyway. Fading them — systematically reducing their use — is an evidence-supported component of CBT for anxiety disorders, with the strongest evidence in panic and social anxiety.
  2. Map your safety-behavior inventory
    List every action you take to prevent feared outcomes in anxiety-provoking situations.
    Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
  3. Reduce covert mental safety behaviors
    Identify and fade the mental acts — rehearsing, planning, distraction — that serve the same function as overt avoidance.
    Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
  4. Dropping Safety Behaviors Within Experiments
    Remove the subtle avoidance strategies (safety behaviors) that prevent experiments from genuinely testing the belief.
    Behavioral Experiments: Testing Beliefs in the Real World
  5. Run a disconfirmation experiment without the safety behavior
    Enter the feared situation without the safety behavior and observe what actually happens.
    Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
  6. Eliminate safety behaviors
    Identify and drop the subtle actions that reduce anxiety but prevent learning you don’t need them.
    Exposure Therapy: Facing Fears to Shrink Them
  7. Diagnose which safety stage your team is currently in
    Before intervening, accurately assess whether the deficit is inclusion, learner, contributor, or challenger safety.
    The Four Stages of Psychological Safety
  8. Map your personal safety and threat cues
    Identify the specific environmental, relational, and sensory cues that shift your nervous system state.
    Neuroception: How Your Nervous System Reads Safety Before Your Mind Does
  9. Respond productively to failure and bad news
    How you react in the first thirty seconds after a mistake either banks or burns safety.
    Psychological Safety, Made Practical
  10. Respond immediately and visibly to safety violations
    When safety is violated — a person is mocked, shut down, or punished for dissent — address it in the moment.
    The Four Stages of Psychological Safety

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