Coaching practices for In Person Gratitude

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I’ve actually written the thank-you out, but the thought of sitting across from them and reading it aloud to their face makes me want to just text it instead
• There’s one particular person who genuinely changed the course of my life, and I’ve never actually told them what they meant to me
• People around me do helpful things all the time and I feel the appreciation but it just stays in my head
• There’s one person who genuinely changed the course of my life and I never properly told them
• The second someone genuinely thanks me I rush to brush it off

Practices that may help

1. Deliver the letter in person — do not send it
   Read the letter aloud to the recipient without giving them the paper to read — presence is the active ingredient.
   The Gratitude Visit: Telling Someone They Mattered
2. Write and deliver a gratitude visit
   Write a letter to someone who changed your life and read it to them in person.
   Seligman’s PERMA Model, Made Practical
3. Practice micro gratitude visits for smaller acknowledgments
   For everyday appreciation, develop a habit of specific, direct acknowledgment in the moment.
   The Gratitude Visit: Telling Someone They Mattered
4. The gratitude visit
   Write and deliver a letter of thanks, in person, to someone you never properly thanked.
   Positive Psychology, Made Practical
5. Practice receiving gratitude without deflecting
   When someone expresses genuine gratitude to you, resist the reflex to minimize it — receive it fully.
   The Gratitude Visit: Telling Someone They Mattered
6. Write one brief gratitude note per week to a real person
   Each week, send one specific thank-you to a person whose contribution you actually noticed.
   Counting Blessings: The Psychology of Grateful Reflection
7. The Gratitude Visit: Telling Someone They Mattered
   The gratitude visit — writing a detailed letter to someone who has profoundly influenced you and then delivering it in person — produces the largest immediate well-being boost of any exercise tested in Seligman’s original positive psychology program, and measurable happiness gains for a month. The person who delivers the letter benefits at least as much as the recipient.
8. Decide deliberately whether and how to deliver each letter
   Not every gratitude letter should be sent — and the decision should be deliberate, not default.
   Gratitude Letters: Writing Your Way to Deeper Appreciation
9. Close the favor with specific, sincere gratitude
   Specific thanks reinforces the helper’s positive self-attribution and deepens the effect.
   The Ben Franklin Effect, Made Practical
10. The gratitude letter
    Write a detailed letter to someone who helped you and, ideally, read it to them.
    Gratitude Journaling, Done Well

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