Coaching practices for Incompatible Response Habit

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • I can feel the urge coming now, but in that moment I’ve got nothing to do with my hands except give in
  • There’s one trigger I can’t avoid
  • Whenever I manage to stop one version of it, the same restless need just leaks out somewhere else
  • I genuinely cannot catch myself in the act on my own, and the people who do notice just sigh or snap at me, which makes it worse
  • I keep trying to white-knuckle the old habit away by just not doing it, and the willpower drains and I cave every time

Practices that may help

  1. Install a competing response that blocks the habit physically
    Pre-load a specific muscle action that makes performing the habit impossible — and hold it for one minute.
    Habit Reversal Training, Made Practical
  2. Counter-condition an unwanted cue-response pair
    Pair the cue that triggers an unwanted response with something incompatible until the old association weakens.
    Classical Conditioning and Habit Triggers
  3. Assess the function of the habit before trying to stop it
    What does the habit give you? The competing response needs to meet the same underlying need.
    Habit Reversal Training, Made Practical
  4. Enlist a habit support partner for awareness and reinforcement
    A support partner who prompts and reinforces the competing response accelerates habit reduction.
    Habit Reversal Training, Made Practical
  5. Replace the old behavior with a healthier substitute
    Substituting a competing response for a problem behavior is more durable than suppression alone.
    The Transtheoretical Model of Change, Made Practical
  6. Use variable-ratio reinforcement to make habits persistent
    Once a behavior is established, shift to an unpredictable reward schedule to make it resistant to extinction.
    Operant Conditioning and Schedules of Reinforcement
  7. Use differential reinforcement to increase desired behavior while reducing unwanted behavior
    Reinforce the behavior you want while withholding reinforcement from the one you don’t — at the same time.
    Operant Conditioning and Schedules of Reinforcement
  8. Use environmental context change to weaken existing conditioned habits
    Change your environment to disrupt the conditioned cues that maintain an unwanted habit.
    Classical Conditioning and Habit Triggers
  9. Accommodation: inhibiting destructive responses to partner provocation
    When your partner does something hurtful or irritating, practice responding constructively rather than in kind.
    The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)
  10. Pair a new behavior with an existing conditioned cue
    Attach the new behavior to a cue that already reliably fires, leveraging the existing conditioned association.
    Classical Conditioning and Habit Triggers

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