Coaching practices for Lyubomirsky Kindness Experiment

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I do little nice things for people here and there all week, but it never seems to lift me the way I’d expect
• My kindness all goes to the same handful of people I already take care of, and it’s started to feel like obligation
• The small good things I do feel so tiny against everything that’s wrong that I wonder why I bother
• In the moment that I help someone there’s a little glow, but I rush straight on to the next thing and by evening it’s gone
• Doing good for people used to give me a real lift, but I’ve fallen into the same couple of gestures on autopilot and now they feel like going through the motions

Practices that may help

1. Cluster your acts of kindness into one day
   Do five acts of kindness in a single day rather than spreading them thinly across a week.
   Acts of Kindness, Made Practical
2. Acts of Kindness, Made Practical
   Yes — performing deliberate acts of kindness reliably produces a measurable boost in well-being for the giver, not just the recipient. Randomized studies by Sonja Lyubomirsky and colleagues find the effect is real but depends heavily on variety and intentionality: doing the same acts repetitively, or without awareness, dilutes the benefit.
3. Extend kindness toward strangers, not just your inner circle
   Acts of kindness toward strangers often produce stronger well-being benefits than acts toward people you already help routinely.
   Acts of Kindness, Made Practical
4. Notice the ripple — secondary effects beyond the immediate act
   Watch for how a single act of kindness can propagate through a social network, which amplifies the meaning of the original act.
   Acts of Kindness, Made Practical
5. Reflect briefly on kind acts after doing them
   Spend two to three minutes at day’s end recalling your kindness acts — the consolidation is part of why the practice works.
   Acts of Kindness, Made Practical
6. Vary the acts to prevent hedonic adaptation
   Change the type and target of your kindness acts regularly — repetition dulls the emotional payoff.
   Acts of Kindness, Made Practical
7. Ask for a small, genuine favor from someone you want to build rapport with
   Request something real and modest — help you actually need — not a pretext.
   The Ben Franklin Effect, Made Practical
8. Include acts of kindness toward yourself
   The kindness architecture that builds well-being includes self-directed kindness — not just other-directed.
   Acts of Kindness, Made Practical
9. Apply door-in-the-face for prosocial or charitable asks
   The technique was originally tested in a prosocial context and works especially well when both parties share values.
   The Door-in-the-Face Technique, Made Practical
10. Acts of kindness
    Do one deliberate kind thing for another person — the giver benefits as much as or more than the receiver.
    Building Positive Emotions, Made Practical

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