Coaching practices for Moral Exemplars Relationship
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- There’s a spot where I keep quietly cutting corners when no one’s really looking, and I want to live like the people I admire actually are watching
- I have abstract ideas about the kind of person I want to be, but in a hard moment I freeze because I don’t actually know what that looks like in practice
- I’ve noticed I slowly become like whoever I’m around, and lately the people closest to me bring out a smaller, more cynical version of me
- I’m standing at a choice where I can feel myself about to take the easy, lesser road, and abstract principles aren’t holding me
- I keep telling myself to "be more patient" or "be kinder" and it stays a vague slogan
Practices that may help
- Act in ways that might elevate others
Make choices with the awareness that others may be watching and may be lifted by what they see.
Elevation: The Emotion That Lifts You - Choose and study role models deliberately
Select a specific person whose character in a specific domain you want to internalize, and study how they act — not just what they say.
Virtue Ethics, Made Practical - Cultivate relationships with moral exemplars
Deliberately build closeness with people whose character consistently elevates you.
Elevation: The Emotion That Lifts You - Act as if sages were watching — the practice of the philosophical community
Before any action, ask: would a person I genuinely respect — who embodies the values I aspire to — approve of this?
Pierre Hadot’s Spiritual Exercises - Learning through exemplar study
Study the conduct of a person you consider exemplary and identify one specific behaviour you can emulate.
Confucian Self-Cultivation: The Mencius Approach - Deliberately seek out acts of moral beauty
Regularly expose yourself to accounts of extraordinary human goodness — in person, in narrative, or in news.
Elevation: The Emotion That Lifts You - Ground ethics in love and compassion, not rule compliance
Let care for others — not fear of violation — be the engine of your moral conduct.
The Perennial Philosophy, Made Practical - Use great moral literature as an elevation source
Read fiction, biography, and history that places exceptional human virtue at the center.
Elevation: The Emotion That Lifts You - Seek moral beauty as a source of awe
Let acts of extraordinary courage, kindness, or virtue stop you the way a mountain does.
Awe and the Small Self - Attend to moral beauty as an everyday awe source
Notice and dwell on acts of extraordinary virtue, skill, or dedication — a common awe trigger that most people overlook.
Awe and Well-Being, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Moral Beauty Emotion
Notice and dwell on acts of extraordinary virtue, skill, or dedication — a common awe trigger that most people overlook.
Attend to moral beauty as an everyday awe source
- Moral Exemplar
Select a specific person whose character in a specific domain you want to internalize, and study how they act — not just what they say.
Choose and study role models deliberately
- How To Be Moved By Virtue
Name and thank the specific virtuous acts of people around you — not just their kindness toward you.
Express specific gratitude for acts of moral virtue you witness
- Moral Beauty Journal
Record moments of moral beauty you witness — in others and in yourself — to train your attention toward virtue.
Keep an elevation journal
- Moral Literature Elevation
Read fiction, biography, and history that places exceptional human virtue at the center.
Use great moral literature as an elevation source
- Seeking Moral Beauty Elevation
Make choices with the awareness that others may be watching and may be lifted by what they see.
Act in ways that might elevate others
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