Coaching practices for Movement for Emotion Regulation Children

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• When my child melts down and I ask what’s wrong, they genuinely can’t tell me
• My little one gets so wound up or so shut down that talking goes nowhere
• I worry I’ve accidentally taught my child that only being calm and happy is acceptable, because now they hide it or insist they’re "fine" when they’re clearly upset
• When my child gets upset my whole reflex is to make it stop as fast as possible
• My child has these huge feelings with no words for them

Practices that may help

1. Teach the four zones and what each one feels like
   Give children a shared map of internal states before asking them to regulate.
   Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers)
2. Use physical movement to shift the nervous system state
   When the child is stuck in a heightened state, movement can shift the physiological baseline faster than words.
   The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
3. Teach that Green is the goal, not the only acceptable zone
   All zones are normal; the goal is knowing which zone a situation calls for and how to get there.
   Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers)
4. Treat the emotional moment as a teaching opportunity
   When your child is upset, slow down instead of speeding toward resolution.
   Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
5. Help the child label the emotion with words
   Naming the feeling turns a body sensation into something the child can think about.
   Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
6. Build each child’s personalized regulation toolbox
   Each child needs their own set of tools matched to each zone.
   Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers)
7. Listen empathically and validate the feeling
   Reflect the emotion you see accurately before you do anything else.
   Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
8. Labeling emotions in children: the parenting application
   When a child is upset, name their emotion aloud and validate it before attempting to solve or redirect.
   Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice
9. Set limits on behavior while accepting the feeling
   All feelings are acceptable; not all behaviors are — hold both at once.
   Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
10. Practice emotion coaching during low-stakes moments
    Build the skill in small moments so it’s available in the big ones.
    Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)

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