Coaching practices for My Boss Blames the Company Going Under on Me

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• My team dropped the ball again and my first instinct is to point at them or at circumstances
• I keep taking my boss’s frustrating decisions personally, like they’re just choosing to make my life harder
• I keep dropping problems on my boss’s desk and waiting for them to tell me what to do, and I can feel it reads as me not owning my work
• When something goes wrong around me I automatically assume it’s my fault
• I send my boss the careful, detailed write-ups I’d want to receive and they barely skim them, and I keep blaming the content

Practices that may help

1. Take extreme ownership
   When the team fails, the leader looks first at what the leader did or failed to do.
   Extreme Ownership, Made Practical
2. Understand the constraints your manager operates under
   Ask about the pressures and constraints your manager faces — then factor them into your expectations and requests.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
3. Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
   Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
4. Personalization and self-blame
   Take excessive personal responsibility for negative events that were partly or wholly outside your control.
   Cognitive Distortions: The Thinking Errors Behind Anxiety and Depression
5. Adapt to your manager’s communication style
   Match your manager’s preferred level of detail, pace, and channel — not theirs to yours.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
6. Send proactive, brief status updates
   Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
7. Make attributions specific, not global
   Keep the explanation for failure in the domain where it happened — resist letting it spill into a verdict on your whole self.
   Attributional Retraining, Made Practical
8. Spend more time on "what did not go well" than on what did
   Failure analysis contains the most actionable information in any honest review.
   The Annual Review (Tim Ferriss Method)
9. Transfer authority with the responsibility
   Give people the decision rights and resources the task actually requires.
   Effective Delegation, Made Practical
10. Create a culture of peer-to-peer accountability
    Teams that only hold each other accountable through the manager haven’t built real accountability at all.
    The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, Made Practical

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