Coaching practices for Name the Story Emotional Agility

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  • The same exact tape plays every time things go sideways
  • There’s a conversation I know I need to have
  • My mood keeps making my decisions for me
  • I can be fine one-on-one but the second a conversation gets tense it slides into a fight before I know it
  • I only ever try this stuff when my kid is already in full meltdown, and that’s exactly when it comes out stiff and scripted and falls apart

Practices that may help

  1. Emotional Agility, Made Practical
    Emotional agility, developed by psychologist Susan David, is the ability to engage with your emotions — including the difficult ones — with curiosity and without being controlled by them. Unlike toxic positivity, it does not suppress or reframe negative feelings away; it asks you to see them clearly and choose your response from values rather than from reflex. The framework draws heavily on ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy), which has a well-established research base.
  2. Name the story your mind is telling
    Recognize the narrative your emotions run — the "I’m not good enough" or "no one cares" story — so it can’t run you.
    Emotional Agility, Made Practical
  3. Develop emotional courage
    Choose discomfort deliberately when the values-aligned path is harder — courage is a practice, not a trait.
    Emotional Agility, Made Practical
  4. Walk your why — act from values, not from mood
    Choose your response based on what matters to you, not on what the emotion is demanding.
    Emotional Agility, Made Practical
  5. Social skill
    Manage relationships, navigate conflict, and influence well by applying the other four skills in interaction.
    Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical
  6. Practice emotion coaching during low-stakes moments
    Build the skill in small moments so it’s available in the big ones.
    Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
  7. Build emotional energy rituals to buffer against daily depletion
    Emotional energy is the quality of emotional availability you bring to work and relationships — and it is trainable through brief daily rituals.
    Energy Management, Not Time Management
  8. Show up — turn toward difficult emotions
    Face difficult feelings with curiosity rather than suppressing, avoiding, or being swept into them.
    Emotional Agility, Made Practical
  9. Ask the workability question
    Ask "is what I am doing working?" — not "is it right?" but whether it is moving you toward the life you want.
    Emotional Agility, Made Practical
  10. Rumble with the story you’re telling yourself
    Name the conspiracy your mind invents in a hard moment, then check it against the facts.
    Daring Greatly, Made Practical

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